Sex Toy Safety | 7 Easy Ways To Protect Yourself

Sex Toy Safety

A number of us have a background  in highly regulated and safety orientated industries. So when we were researching the risks within the sex industry for our social enterprise ‘Vavven’…

Well we were nothing short of horrified with what we found!


We’d expected items purchased for your favourite orifices would be safe for their intended purpose. We expected manufacturing standards and regulations would ensure consumer safety just as they do in so many other industries. But sadly this is not the case.

This blog contains the simple knowledge to prevent your parent, or child, or friend experiencing a world of embarrassment and pain.

Sex Industry Regulation

Lack of regulation for this industry means manufacturers of sex toys are relatively free to manufacture their products as they wish, in any form and almost any material they desire, even though they understanding you’re going to place these items in your most sensitive and porous areas.

The sex industry has also failed in this area. Retailers have every opportunity to provide you with the simple knowledge needed to protect yourself, but many of them either pay no attention at all, or they give toxic material and cleaning knowledge only.

People of all ages and all walks of life end up in hospital from serious mishaps while trying to gain sexual pleasure using either sex toys or common household products.

Sex Toy Safety 7 Easy Tips

Whether they are being used by couples in relationships or by
individuals whilst they watch videos on sites like A Tube XXX, sex toys can be
fantastic. But what we found is that they aren’t always as fantastic as
we think. We will share more information over time, but a great way to help with your safety is to follow these 7 easy tips:

1/ Don’t Place Anything In Your Anus That Doesn’t Have A Flared Base

We cannot stress this point enough!

Of the sex toy related injuries presenting at hospital, it is estimated over 80% are to remove items lost in the anus.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]

Your anus does not self-lubricate, it has two sphincters (one external and one internal), and it also has very strong muscles.

After the second anal sphincter there’s a kink in the bowel, and if your probe turns this corner (which it can do during anal suck or being pushed to far) it can begin to migrate north.

And no it’s unlikely it will come out. There have been plenty of instances where both males and females have experienced this, hell, there’s probably even video evidence if you were to look a porn sites like youngsexer.com or likewise websites online.

In very basic terms, the bowel muscle normally contracts behind your bodily waste to remove it, but it can also push items the other way back into the body.

Anal suck is the contraction of those very big muscles during an orgasm.

Put slippery fingers from lubricant in the mix and it will make gripping your probe very difficult.

A flared base will not prevent this mishap (if you’re stupid enough to push it too far), but it does provide a proximity reminder and a gripping point for either you or the super lucky emergency doctor on the extraction mission.

Considering a mishap can still happen

  1. Reduce the likelihood by always controlling your own anal toy during joint play &
  2. Think about your product before play, that is, stay away from products with sharp edges that could cut the delicate internal body tissue, such as jewel studded butt plug, or plugs with sharp points or raised seams. Keep in mind the amazing medical people can not x-ray your lost item unless it is metal.

If you lose anything up your anal cavity forget your dignity and hightail it to emergency, because that sucker ain’t coming back out and can do extremely serious damage!!!

2/ Talk With Professionals

Before deciding to experiment with sex toys chat with your doctor.

Yes potentially embarrassing but you’ll get over it, there’s nothing your GP hasn’t seen or heard before. They’re a wealth of information (yep all that study is for a reason), they can make sure you’re in good health and that you’re not treating a symptom of a much larger problem.

The other important professional in your sex life is a great Sex Educator.

They can assist with pleasure as a complete package, mind and body. We recommend Cyndi Darnell as an educator, she was one of the experts we selected to participate in Vavven’s product risk assessment panel and she runs sessions via Skype so geography isn’t an issue.

Sex toy retailers are experts in retailing not sexual advice.

Yes many can educate you on sex, but your own doctor combined with an expert sex educator will help you really uncover what your issues are and provide you with a much healthier sexual outcome.

3/ Purchase Body Friendly Materials

Body safe materials are very important, not only are your pleasure zones often porous they are also sensitive.

This means a sex toy and lubricants made from a toxic materials can by absorbed into your body easily and irritate or burn your skin.

Finding non-toxic materials isn’t easy due the lack of regulations, but as a guide look for reputable manufacturers and only purchase products which are bodysafe, food grade, or medical grade: silicone; glass; metal; wood; ABS plastic; or ceramic.

Stay away from porous materials, materials that either absorb fluid or trap it on its surface. Porous materials not only capture micro yucks they’re really hard to clean, meaning the micro yucks can cause infection or worse.

Sex toy bloggers such as Princess Previews or Miss Ruby Reviews are a great place to investigate toys, as they both give honest sex toy reviews and only deal in non porous sex toys made with non-toxic materials.

4/ Use The Sex Toy Safely

Each sex toy is designed for a different use and can be dangerous if misused.

For example lubricate is designed to assist with reducing friction during sexual pleasure, but if used in the shower or the bath could cause a bone breaking slippery floor.

Vibrators & Dildos

A vibrator has an oscillating motor with an offset weight which causes it to vibrate. A dildo does not have a motor, it does not move under its own steam.

Vibes are great for external vibration or internal vaginal play, but both vibrators and dildos can be quite dangerous if used for anal play if they do not have a flared base (see #1).

It’s also important that you mix up your clitoral simulation methods from time to time, change the vibration frequency and speed as well as trying stimulation other than vibration. Play with temperature, air or water flow. Using a water proof vibrator in the bath can help with this by holding it close to the zone, but not touching.

Penis Rings

Penis rings are a little tricky, see penis ring safety, but the main thing to watch out for is ensuring you purchase a material that you can easily cut from your penis if needed, and you check in with your doctor pre-use.

Butt Plugs

See anal play safety, but the main things to watch out for are #1 the flared base rule and #2 medical check.

Sounding Equipment

This is a long probe which is inserted into the eye of the penis.

We do not stock this item, but we’d like to stress

  1. see your doctor first there are many things which can go wrong with this practice &
  2. be aware of the material being used, that is, the common household pencil is NOT a good idea. It may leave internal splinters which can only be removed in hospital if at all.

Pre-use Check

No matter what type of toy you are using always inspect it prior to use.

  • run your hands over it thoroughly for sharp edges (the skin on your junk is very soft and easy to tear)
  • visually check for pinch points and surface cracks
  • visually inspect the batteries and housing for corrosion or any change; or check the charging cable and charging point for damage or exposed wiring
  • if you find any of these things, it’s time to bin your toy.

Vavven Safety Information

With each of our sex toys we send you detailed do’s and do not’s.

5/ Clean Your Fun Toys

Always clean your sex toys before and after use, and as a general rule clean between each new cavity.

Check out How To Clean Sex Toys.

6/ Buy From A Reputable Retailer

Buy from a reputable retailer, an organisation who knows how to impose their own regulations to improve your safety.

There are a few great retailers out there when it comes to checking items for toxic materials such as Smitten Kitten, but the pickings are very slim if you’re also looking for electrical and functional safety.
In Australia, sex toys are adequately covered for electrical safety under Australian regulations, but good luck finding an Australian importer let alone a retailer who understands the legal responsibility here.

7/ Don’t Get Suckered By Internet Bollocks

  • Price will not determine your toy safety. We’ve have found safe and unsafe toys in all price ranges.
  • Materials ain’t materials. It would be the easy road to take a blanket assumption all toys made from a certain material are either toxic or non toxic, but the fact is materials are tricky and much rests on additives and manufacturing methods which you may not be aware of.
  • Smell isn’t a good indicator of toxicity many toxins are odourless.
  • The home flame test to prove if a sex toy is manufactured from “real silicone”. This is one of the most amusing things we’ve read so far in this industry. It‘s a great indicator of the lack of material and chemical property understanding of those involved, but a very poor indicator of the material. Silicone will melt at plus 300C and the hottest part of a pocket lighter can reach nearly 2,000C, even a slight wobble with flame placement will subject the silicone to temperatures far above its limits.

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When’s my partner ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven sexual experimentation

Whether you want to explore a fantasy or introduce sex toys, sexual experimentation in relationships is normal and healthy. But that doesn’t mean all your desires will align to that of your partners. So it’s always best to check in with your partner(s) before throwing down something a little out of your ordinary sexual ritual.

Our tips to checking in with your partner exploring likes and dislikes are:

#1 Talk

The best way to determine whether your partner is also ready to experiment is to sit down and have an honest discussion with them. Try doing this at neutral time. The heat of the moment can tend to complicate things, try sitting down during a calm moment together.

Have a talk about what some of your limits may be, both as partners and as individuals. Talk about how you might communicate when either of you feel like things have gone too far or you are uncomfortable.

Ensure that you both feel safe to say no at any time to each other.

#2 Consent

When your sexual activity involves others, it is vital you and all participants are consenting adults who are emotionally ready. Don’t follow a crowd, set your own limits. If it feels wrong for you or if you change your mind, speak up and say no. Your body, your rules. If you don’t want be a part of something, you are perfectly within your rights to remove yourself.

Consenting means person(s) of full mental faculties, engaging in the full act of their own free will, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion. See our consent blog for more info on this Consent Click Here.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

#2 Enjoy The Ride

But most of all- enjoy exploring your sexuality alone or with a partner. Be playful and curious, unashamed and adventurous. Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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When am I ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven™ | Love yourself Sexual Experimentation

Only you will ever know the answer to this question. The best advice we can give you is to ensure you love yourself before you decide to love and pleasure others. If you are unable to sit with your special other(s) and have honest discussions on what makes you feel both uncomfortable and aroused, a discussion around sexual experimentation, then perhaps you’re not ready.

If you are exploring on your own, listen to your own instincts. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, then perhaps this is not the right time.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Be playful and curious, enjoy exploring your sexuality, and don’t rush the adventure. It’s like they say, it’s all about the journey.

Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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What does consent really mean?

Vavven Consent

We think the British Police have nailed the topic of sexual consent, so rather than listen to us, take 3 mins to watch (and share) this clip, or keep reading.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics – Personal Safety Survey 2012, 19.4% of women and 4.5% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15. It’s important you understand sexual consent, what it means and what it looks like.

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

  • Consent can only be gained from a person of full mental faculties, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion i.e. involved by their own freewill.
  • Consent at the beginning of an act does not mean someone cannot change their mind or lose control. If this happens you no longer have consent and you should stop and ensure the person is safe.
  • Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged. Look for signs of enthusiastic consent such as verbal invitation, pulling you closer to them, asking for things, telling you what feels good.
  • Again, someone who may have enthusiastically consented at the start of play can also change their mind mid-act.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

How Do I Ask For Consent?

Communication, communication, communication! Before, during and after. Create a safe and loving space. Even if you are ships passing in the night you can still be loving, respectful and care for the person you are with at the time.

Before

Just ask!

  • “I just want to make sure we are both into the same thing, would you like to … ? I’m also cool not doing anything”
  • “What would you like to do?”

This is also a great time to let your partner know your own limits.

During

Pillow talk is very sexy, use it to check on your partners willingness to remain involved.

  • “What feels good for you?”
  • “Do you like it when I …?”
  • “Tell me what you would like”
  • “Are you OK?”

After

  • “Thank you”
  • “What would make it better for you?”
  • “Are you OK?”

Laughing – Project Consent

If My Partner Said OK, Are There Cues They Didn’t Mean It?

Yes! You can be sure your partner is not feeling right about sex if they are doing any of the following

  • Not responding to your touch
  • Pushing you away
  • Holding their arms tightly around their own body
  • Turning away from you or hiding their face
  • Stiffening muscles

These are all good reasons to stop.

What If I Started It All And Now I’m Not Sure?

That is OK, you may have thought you were ready and you’re not, or you may not like something that is happening. Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged.

If you do not want what is happening, respect yourself and say so.

This could be “please stop, I’ve changed my mind” or “I need to go to the toilet” or “Can we talk?”

Take the time to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling, give them the same respect you would want in the situation.

I’ve Been Led On

If you believe you are entitled to an act because you feel you were led on, or you are frustrated, or any other reason, well this behaviour is rapey and so not cool.

The best way to help yourself in this situation is ensure the other person is safe, find yourself a private place, and beat off! We’ve got lots of products to help with that part!

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Sex Toys For Beginners: Your Vulva

Sex Toys For Beginners Your Vulva

A Guide to Sex Toys For Beginners: How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Your Vulva

Sex toys are all over the internet, literally at our fingertips if we want them … but how the hell do we pick the ‘right’ one out of the plethora of options online? From male sex toys to female toys, or toys for anal play and even toys for partners, there is simply a lot to choose from.

To help out I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you’re thinking of purchasing your very first sex toy, but don’t know where to start.

Let’s face it, there’s a toy for everything and everyone; vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, bullets, double enders … you name it, it’s out there.

You may find that you look at some products and wonder what the hell they are for?!

Don’t stress,

even I get confused with the look of some toys, and I’ve been a sexologist for years!

If it’s your first time and you feel overwhelmed, I recommend asking yourself some questions …

Do you want the toy just to stimulate your clit? Or do you want something to penetrate your vagina too?

If you just want clit stimulation, go with a small bullet.

If you want vaginal penetration, get a dildo or vibrator … if you want both at the same time (yes, you can have both at the same time!), then I recommend a ‘rabbit’ style vibrator.

Or, if you have a bullet and vibrator then don’t be afraid to use both simultaneously.

“Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!” Juliet Allen

Choosing the ‘right’ sex toy may mean that you go through a couple of toys until you find the right one for you (kinda like lovers).

When you receive your toy in the mail (don’t worry, all online companies make the packaging VERY discreet, so your flat mate won’t know what it is!) give it a good wash in warm soapy water before using it, and make sure you have a water based lubricant as well.

Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!

Take your time and remember that self-pleasure is a healthy and fun part of life and that sex toys are the perfect accompaniment a self-pleasure session.

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