How to Improve Your Sex Life

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Vavven How To Improve Your Sex Life

Five simple tips to help you learn how to improve your sex life, whether you’re in a long term relationship or just ships passing in the night. These tips don’t require learning yoni massage or how to striptease, they’re simply based around understanding sex is a mutual experience, it’s the connection of your hearts, your souls, and your complete beings.

1/ Don’t Rush

Don’t rush the experience. We’re not talking physical speed, you can go fast or slow, whatever rocks your boat. We’re talking mental speed, the experience, keeping your mind in the moment. Don’t think about how you look, smell, taste, how you could improve, or what your partner may or may not be thinking. Just relax into the moment. Feel the stimulation of your skin, hear the breathing of your partner, taste the moment when hearts, minds and bodies come together.

2/ Have Fun

Have fun and break the rules (obviously not the one about consent), but throw convention out the window and try different things. You don’t need to be dramatic, just simply do something different to your “normal”. Maybe it’s uncomfortable passion on the kitchen table or sitting back and touching yourself while keeping your partner at bay. Just play. Some things will work and plenty will be just laughable, but the journey will be great!

3/ Lean to Tango

Not literally, but a tango requires two willing and eager participants to be beautiful. Great sex is a mutual give and take and there is no room for needy or pushy in the bedroom. Have mutual respect and let the music you create take you places you didn’t expect.

4/ Practice Kissing

Kiss for hours. Give yourselves time to explore, tease and connect. Too often when we are familiar with our lover we reach for the pants. Try slowing things down and kissing for foreplay. Maybe even take the sex off the table and try kissing to the point of wanting to break this new rule.Try playing with your kissing style, vary the pressure, even add a playful bite. Kissing is so intimate and stimulating, just enjoy it.

5/ Talk

We bang on about this point, but communication is the best friend you have for a great sex life. Talk while, before, and after sex even if it’s uncomfortable remember to talk. We understand it can be painfully difficult to open up, so be willing to be the first one to open up and help your partner feel comfortable. And if your partner is saying something awkwardly, listen to them and give them respect.

If you have tips you would like to share, leave them in the comments for others to read.

Happy loving peeps.

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Sex Toys for Christians

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Vavven™ | Sex Toys for Christians

What does sex toys for Christians mean? Christians are joined in faith, but the views of the individual faiths within Christianity vary as do the diverse opinions and beliefs of the individuals who uphold these faiths.

So when we discuss sex toys, or intimacy products as we like to call them, in a Christian context we are really looking at a few key universal values most Christians would relate to: love; intimacy; communication; and respect.

We believe love is a gift, a gift we can share or hold. When we talk love we mean, love for ourselves, love for our partner, and love for the world. Here at Vavven we deeply believe in love and the difference it can make in the world.

This is why we only source ethically manufactured products, this means no child labour, no poor safety conditions, and decent wages. This belief in love is why we campaign for Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights (SRHR) in the hope that one day things such as honour killings and child marriages across the world will be eradicated.

We believe it’s good to love others and love yourself, and that intimacy with your partner is a gift to be treasured and enhanced. This can only happen with communication and respect. Respect for yourself, your partner, and the intimacy and ability you already have to communicate.

There are very few relationships that stand the test of children and everyday life pressure without drifting apart or losing touch from time to time in some way. Vavven wants to help people draw closer together by enhancing their relationships, we want to help people rediscover themselves and their partner.

Intimacy products can help bring a new element of connection to your relationship, they help you communicate and they bring a lot of fun into your bedroom. Vavven has been curated to ensure people and their partners feel safe and comfortable browsing together in the privacy of their own home.

In short, we’re unable to answer the complex and emotional underlying question ‘is it alright for Christians to use sex toys?’ this is a question only you can answer.

However, Vavven is sure to be one of the most ethical suppliers you will find and your love for yourself will help many around the world.

 

We’re discreet

If you’re concerned about privacy –

  • our packaging is plain yet beautiful and completely discreet, not even the post-person will know what is being delivered
  • we also use Australia Post parcel drop points if you do not want items delivered to your house
  • we’re able to process transactions via direct transfer, money order, and cheque if you don’t want to use our paypal or credit card facilities (you will need to drop us a line for these payment methods as they are not offered at checkout)

 

We do not sell pornography

Vavven stands against objectification, we think of pleasure in terms of psychology, health and wellbeing, and that being a well-versed, conscious human puts you in control to be aware and shameless when it comes to your own unique sexuality. We provide the space and tools for this exploration, but pornography due to its prescriptive nature is not one of the tools in our tool belt. Having said this, we believe any act which rocks your world, is between consenting adults and not causing harm to others, is healthy. There is a chance some of our blogs may offend you, but just remember the word “inclusive” as this is a part of the Vavven moral code.

Good luck on your journey and we will be here if you ever decide to purchase.

Love the Vavven Team.

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Sex Toy Safety | 7 Easy Ways To Protect Yourself

Sex Toy Safety

A number of us have a background  in highly regulated and safety orientated industries. So when we were researching the risks within the sex industry for our social enterprise ‘Vavven’…

Well we were nothing short of horrified with what we found!


We’d expected items purchased for your favourite orifices would be safe for their intended purpose. We expected manufacturing standards and regulations would ensure consumer safety just as they do in so many other industries. But sadly this is not the case.

This blog contains the simple knowledge to prevent your parent, or child, or friend experiencing a world of embarrassment and pain.

Sex Industry Regulation

Lack of regulation for this industry means manufacturers of sex toys are relatively free to manufacture their products as they wish, in any form and almost any material they desire, even though they understanding you’re going to place these items in your most sensitive and porous areas.

The sex industry has also failed in this area. Retailers have every opportunity to provide you with the simple knowledge needed to protect yourself, but many of them either pay no attention at all, or they give toxic material and cleaning knowledge only.

People of all ages and all walks of life end up in hospital from serious mishaps while trying to gain sexual pleasure using either sex toys or common household products.

Sex Toy Safety 7 Easy Tips

We will share more information over time, but a great way to help with your safety is to follow these 7 easy tips:

1/ Don’t Place Anything In Your Anus That Doesn’t Have A Flared Base

We cannot stress this point enough!

Of the sex toy related injuries presenting at hospital, it is estimated over 80% are to remove items lost in the anus.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]

Your anus does not self-lubricate, it has two sphincters (one external and one internal), and it also has very strong muscles.

After the second anal sphincter there’s a kink in the bowel, and if your probe turns this corner (which it can do during anal suck or being pushed to far) it can begin to migrate north.

And no it’s unlikely it will come out.

In very basic terms, the bowel muscle normally contracts behind your bodily waste to remove it, but it can also push items the other way back into the body.

Anal suck is the contraction of those very big muscles during an orgasm.

Put slippery fingers from lubricant in the mix and it will make gripping your probe very difficult.

A flared base will not prevent this mishap (if you’re stupid enough to push it too far), but it does provide a proximity reminder and a gripping point for either you or the super lucky emergency doctor on the extraction mission.

Considering a mishap can still happen

  1. Reduce the likelihood by always controlling your own anal toy during joint play &
  2. Think about your product before play, that is, stay away from products with sharp edges that could cut the delicate internal body tissue, such as jewel studded butt plug, or plugs with sharp points or raised seams. Keep in mind the amazing medical people can not x-ray your lost item unless it is metal.

If you lose anything up your anal cavity forget your dignity and hightail it to emergency, because that sucker ain’t coming back out and can do extremely serious damage!!!

2/ Talk With Professionals

Before deciding to experiment with sex toys chat with your doctor.

Yes potentially embarrassing but you’ll get over it, there’s nothing your GP hasn’t seen or heard before. They’re a wealth of information (yep all that study is for a reason), they can make sure you’re in good health and that you’re not treating a symptom of a much larger problem.

The other important professional in your sex life is a great Sex Educator.

They can assist with pleasure as a complete package, mind and body. We recommend Cyndi Darnell as an educator, she was one of the experts we selected to participate in Vavven’s product risk assessment panel and she runs sessions via Skype so geography isn’t an issue.

Sex toy retailers are experts in retailing not sexual advice.

Yes many can educate you on sex, but your own doctor combined with an expert sex educator will help you really uncover what your issues are and provide you with a much healthier sexual outcome.

3/ Purchase Body Friendly Materials

Body safe materials are very important, not only are your pleasure zones often porous they are also sensitive.

This means a sex toy and lubricants made from a toxic materials can by absorbed into your body easily and irritate or burn your skin.

Finding non-toxic materials isn’t easy due the lack of regulations, but as a guide look for reputable manufacturers and only purchase products which are bodysafe, food grade, or medical grade: silicone; glass; metal; wood; ABS plastic; or ceramic.

Stay away from porous materials, materials that either absorb fluid or trap it on its surface. Porous materials not only capture micro yucks they’re really hard to clean, meaning the micro yucks can cause infection or worse.

Sex toy bloggers such as Princess Previews or Miss Ruby Reviews are a great place to investigate toys, as they both give honest sex toy reviews and only deal in non porous sex toys made with non-toxic materials.

4/ Use The Sex Toy Safely

Each sex toy is designed for a different use and can be dangerous if misused.

For example lubricate is designed to assist with reducing friction during sexual pleasure, but if used in the shower or the bath could cause a bone breaking slippery floor.

Vibrators & Dildos

A vibrator has an oscillating motor with an offset weight which causes it to vibrate. A dildo does not have a motor, it does not move under its own steam.

Vibes are great for external vibration or internal vaginal play, but both vibrators and dildos can be quite dangerous if used for anal play if they do not have a flared base (see #1).

It’s also important that you mix up your clitoral simulation methods from time to time, change the vibration frequency and speed as well as trying stimulation other than vibration. Play with temperature, air or water flow. Using a water proof vibrator in the bath can help with this by holding it close to the zone, but not touching.

Penis Rings

Penis rings are a little tricky, see penis ring safety, but the main thing to watch out for is ensuring you purchase a material that you can easily cut from your penis if needed, and you check in with your doctor pre-use.

Butt Plugs

See anal play safety, but the main things to watch out for are #1 the flared base rule and #2 medical check.

Sounding Equipment

This is a long probe which is inserted into the eye of the penis.

We do not stock this item, but we’d like to stress

  1. see your doctor first there are many things which can go wrong with this practice &
  2. be aware of the material being used, that is, the common household pencil is NOT a good idea. It may leave internal splinters which can only be removed in hospital if at all.

Pre-use Check

No matter what type of toy you are using always inspect it prior to use.

  • run your hands over it thoroughly for sharp edges (the skin on your junk is very soft and easy to tear)
  • visually check for pinch points and surface cracks
  • visually inspect the batteries and housing for corrosion or any change; or check the charging cable and charging point for damage or exposed wiring
  • if you find any of these things, it’s time to bin your toy.

Vavven Safety Information

With each of our sex toys we send you detailed do’s and do not’s.

5/ Clean Your Fun Toys

Always clean your sex toys before and after use, and as a general rule clean between each new cavity.

Check out How To Clean Sex Toys.

6/ Buy From A Reputable Retailer

Buy from a reputable retailer, an organisation who knows how to impose their own regulations to improve your safety.

There are a few great retailers out there when it comes to checking items for toxic materials such as Smitten Kitten, but the pickings are very slim if you’re also looking for electrical and functional safety.
In Australia, sex toys are adequately covered for electrical safety under Australian regulations, but good luck finding an Australian importer let alone a retailer who understands the legal responsibility here.

7/ Don’t Get Suckered By Internet Bollocks

  • Price will not determine your toy safety. We’ve have found safe and unsafe toys in all price ranges.
  • Materials ain’t materials. It would be the easy road to take a blanket assumption all toys made from a certain material are either toxic or non toxic, but the fact is materials are tricky and much rests on additives and manufacturing methods which you may not be aware of.
  • Smell isn’t a good indicator of toxicity many toxins are odourless.
  • The home flame test to prove if a sex toy is manufactured from “real silicone”. This is one of the most amusing things we’ve read so far in this industry. It‘s a great indicator of the lack of material and chemical property understanding of those involved, but a very poor indicator of the material. Silicone will melt at plus 300C and the hottest part of a pocket lighter can reach nearly 2,000C, even a slight wobble with flame placement will subject the silicone to temperatures far above its limits.

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When’s my partner ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven sexual experimentation

Whether you want to explore a fantasy or introduce sex toys, sexual experimentation in relationships is normal and healthy. But that doesn’t mean all your desires will align to that of your partners. So it’s always best to check in with your partner(s) before throwing down something a little out of your ordinary sexual ritual.

Our tips to checking in with your partner exploring likes and dislikes are:

#1 Talk

The best way to determine whether your partner is also ready to experiment is to sit down and have an honest discussion with them. Try doing this at neutral time. The heat of the moment can tend to complicate things, try sitting down during a calm moment together.

Have a talk about what some of your limits may be, both as partners and as individuals. Talk about how you might communicate when either of you feel like things have gone too far or you are uncomfortable.

Ensure that you both feel safe to say no at any time to each other.

#2 Consent

When your sexual activity involves others, it is vital you and all participants are consenting adults who are emotionally ready. Don’t follow a crowd, set your own limits. If it feels wrong for you or if you change your mind, speak up and say no. Your body, your rules. If you don’t want be a part of something, you are perfectly within your rights to remove yourself.

Consenting means person(s) of full mental faculties, engaging in the full act of their own free will, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion. See our consent blog for more info on this Consent Click Here.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

#2 Enjoy The Ride

But most of all- enjoy exploring your sexuality alone or with a partner. Be playful and curious, unashamed and adventurous. Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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When am I ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven™ | Love yourself Sexual Experimentation

Only you will ever know the answer to this question. The best advice we can give you is to ensure you love yourself before you decide to love and pleasure others. If you are unable to sit with your special other(s) and have honest discussions on what makes you feel both uncomfortable and aroused, a discussion around sexual experimentation, then perhaps you’re not ready.

If you are exploring on your own, listen to your own instincts. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, then perhaps this is not the right time.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Be playful and curious, enjoy exploring your sexuality, and don’t rush the adventure. It’s like they say, it’s all about the journey.

Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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What does consent really mean?

Vavven Consent

We think the British Police have nailed the topic of sexual consent, so rather than listen to us, take 3 mins to watch (and share) this clip, or keep reading.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics – Personal Safety Survey 2012, 19.4% of women and 4.5% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15. It’s important you understand sexual consent, what it means and what it looks like.

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

  • Consent can only be gained from a person of full mental faculties, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion i.e. involved by their own freewill.
  • Consent at the beginning of an act does not mean someone cannot change their mind or lose control. If this happens you no longer have consent and you should stop and ensure the person is safe.
  • Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged. Look for signs of enthusiastic consent such as verbal invitation, pulling you closer to them, asking for things, telling you what feels good.
  • Again, someone who may have enthusiastically consented at the start of play can also change their mind mid-act.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

How Do I Ask For Consent?

Communication, communication, communication! Before, during and after. Create a safe and loving space. Even if you are ships passing in the night you can still be loving, respectful and care for the person you are with at the time.

Before

Just ask!

  • “I just want to make sure we are both into the same thing, would you like to … ? I’m also cool not doing anything”
  • “What would you like to do?”

This is also a great time to let your partner know your own limits.

During

Pillow talk is very sexy, use it to check on your partners willingness to remain involved.

  • “What feels good for you?”
  • “Do you like it when I …?”
  • “Tell me what you would like”
  • “Are you OK?”

After

  • “Thank you”
  • “What would make it better for you?”
  • “Are you OK?”

Laughing – Project Consent

If My Partner Said OK, Are There Cues They Didn’t Mean It?

Yes! You can be sure your partner is not feeling right about sex if they are doing any of the following

  • Not responding to your touch
  • Pushing you away
  • Holding their arms tightly around their own body
  • Turning away from you or hiding their face
  • Stiffening muscles

These are all good reasons to stop.

What If I Started It All And Now I’m Not Sure?

That is OK, you may have thought you were ready and you’re not, or you may not like something that is happening. Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged.

If you do not want what is happening, respect yourself and say so.

This could be “please stop, I’ve changed my mind” or “I need to go to the toilet” or “Can we talk?”

Take the time to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling, give them the same respect you would want in the situation.

I’ve Been Led On

If you believe you are entitled to an act because you feel you were led on, or you are frustrated, or any other reason, well this behaviour is rapey and so not cool.

The best way to help yourself in this situation is ensure the other person is safe, find yourself a private place, and beat off! We’ve got lots of products to help with that part!

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A Guide To Worshipping The Penis

Vavven Worshipping The Penis Juliet Allen

Worshipping the penis…

There are some who view the penis as nothing more than a protruding long tool that is used with little sensitivity or thought … these people often feel resentment towards cock and can’t bare the thought of wrapping their mouth around it.

And then there are those who view the penis with adoration and love … who see it as a pure pleasure wand of light and sensuality, and invite it into their sacred space just as they would invite a God into their temple.

Are you ready to take your worship of cock to a whole new level? Are you ready to give your cock owner the love and adoration that they deserves? If you are, here’s a few ways you can embrace the beauty of your partner’s most prized possession:

Complement The Penis

Shower your partner with genuine, loving compliments about their penis. Tell them what you love about it … go out of your way to give them compliments.

Next time they are at work, send them a message telling them just one thing you love about their cock.

Next time you begin undressing them, touch their cock with love and stroke it whilst telling them how fu*cking hot their cock is.

Remember, be honest and sincere, only say things you truly mean and speak from your heart.

Receive it with love, whether that be in your pussy, mouth or ass

Adore it, touch it, caress it, lick it, kiss it, feel it in your mouth … worship their cock like a temple and, when you’re ready, receive it fully, allowing every inch to enter you with complete love and adoration.

Give your partner a lingam massage

Every penis loves having a good massaged.

Firstly, make sure your partner is comfortable and communicate to them that this is about their pleasure and that they have permission to just relax and enjoy.

Using organic coconut oil and warm hands, begin slowly with gently strokes and caresses.

Begin slowly, very slowly, make it last. Savour every single moment.

Don’t rush.

Stroke your partners perineum (the area between their balls and anus).

Ask what they enjoy.

Listen to their breathing and sounds.

Connect with your partners lingam with your heart.

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Honouring Your Vagina Begins With Self Pleasure

Vavven Vagina Self Pleasure Juliet Allen

Honouring your vagina begins with self pleasure, so it’s time to redefine how we think and feel about our vagina’s.

The vagina (aka pussy, cunt, vulva etc) is often overlooked and misunderstood and definitely, in my opinion, not given the attention and love that it deserves.

“Our pussy is like a flower.”

It’s time to honour our vagina’s and treat them like the divine and exquisite temple that they are, allowing only amazing energy and love to enter our sacred space.

All too often we don’t give our pussy the love that it needs and deserves.

When we neglect our pussy it overflows into us not enjoying our sexuality in it’s fullness, and we definitely don’t reap the full benefit and pleasure of sex and love-making with others.

I know some of you out there honour Pussy like the God it is … but I also know that many of you don’t, and it’s time to change your ways.

Our pussy is like a flower (cliche, yes, but true) and for us to open our flower to you, you must meet us with a view that you are entering a sacred temple space.

You must also bring in healthy presence and a deep honouring of us in order for us to completely surrender to your touch and to your sexual energy.

“You must honour your pussy yourself.”

When our pussy feels honoured and a space is created for us to surrender, we will open creating deeper pleasure and increased capacity to experience deeper ecstasy and orgasm.

Before you begin manifesting lovers into your life who honour your temple, you must honour your pussy yourself.

Take time to explore your pussy, massage it, connect with it and give it what it wants and needs.

Begin an intimate and loving relationship with your pussy on a daily basis and feel what it truly desires.

When you can do that for yourself, you will then begin to notice your lovers will open to that energy, and in turn honour your temple in a new and more profound way.

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78% of cis women who use sex toys report being in a relationship, getting to know your vagina may be something you do by yourself to kick it off, or it could be a wonderful journey with your special other(s). These suggestions are a great starting place for connection.

Enjoy the journey.

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4 Communication Tips That Will Change Your Sex Life Instantly

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We all know that great communication is the key to a great sex life, but the fact is, communicating about sex is easier said than done.

The topic of sex often feels awkward to bring up, plus it may trigger emotions within us that can leave us feeling vulnerable and raw.

So, how do we feel more comfortable talking about sex? And what’s the best way to bring it up with our partner?

Communication Tip #1 Get clear on your belief system surrounding sex

If you’re committed to a great sex life, it’s important that you explore what your values and beliefs are surrounding the topic of sex.

I recommend journaling about this and getting really clear on how you feel about it and what you want your sex life to look like.

When you have clarity around your views it’s easier to communicate them to your partner.

Communication Tip #2 Find someone outside your relationship to talk to you about sex

Sex is still somewhat taboo and this means that many of us keep quiet and don’t talk to anyone about it (let alone our partners).

If you want to feel more comfortable talking about sex, I recommend you find a sex coach or therapist to bounce ideas off and chat to.

This gives you a healthy, non-judgmental outlet to vent.

Communication Tip #3 Be open to listening and respecting the views of your partner

Stop thinking that you are ‘right’ and your partner is ‘wrong’.

You both have different views and experiences of sex, be open to listening to your partner and respecting what they say and how they feel.

Communication Tip #4 Feel confident in who you are sexually and what you stand for

Confidence is sexy!

Don’t hold back in embracing yourself as a sexual being and this will shine through in your communication.

Identify if you feel any shame and guilt around sex (most of us do) and do your best to deal with that (again, find a sex coach).

Once you’ve dealt with the guilt and shame you will feel more confident and able to embrace your true sexual nature.

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Sex Toys For Beginners: Your Vulva

Sex Toys For Beginners Your Vulva

A Guide to Sex Toys For Beginners: How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Your Vulva

Sex toys are all over the internet, literally at our fingertips if we want them … but how the hell do we pick the ‘right’ one out of the plethora of options online?

To help out I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you’re thinking of purchasing your very first sex toy, but don’t know where to start.

Let’s face it, there’s a toy for everything and everyone; vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, bullets, double enders … you name it, it’s out there.

You may find that you look at some products and wonder what the hell they are for?!

Don’t stress,

even I get confused with the look of some toys, and I’ve been a sexologist for years!

If it’s your first time and you feel overwhelmed, I recommend asking yourself some questions …

Do you want the toy just to stimulate your clit? Or do you want something to penetrate your vagina too?

If you just want clit stimulation, go with a small bullet.

If you want vaginal penetration, get a dildo or vibrator … if you want both at the same time (yes, you can have both at the same time!), then I recommend a ‘rabbit’ style vibrator.

Or, if you have a bullet and vibrator then don’t be afraid to use both simultaneously.

“Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!” Juliet Allen

Choosing the ‘right’ sex toy may mean that you go through a couple of toys until you find the right one for you (kinda like lovers).

When you receive your toy in the mail (don’t worry, all online companies make the packaging VERY discreet, so your flat mate won’t know what it is!) give it a good wash in warm soapy water before using it, and make sure you have a water based lubricant as well.

Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!

Take your time and remember that self-pleasure is a healthy and fun part of life and that sex toys are the perfect accompaniment a self-pleasure session.

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