A Guide to Sex Toys For Beginners: How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Your Vulva
Sex toys are all over the internet, literally at our fingertips if we want them … but how the hell do we pick the ‘right’ one out of the plethora of options online?
To help out I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you’re thinking of purchasing your very first sex toy, but don’t know where to start.
Let’s face it, there’s a toy for everything and everyone; vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, bullets, double enders … you name it, it’s out there.
You may find that you look at some products and wonder what the hell they are for?!
even I get confused with the look of some toys, and I’ve been a sexologist for years!
If it’s your first time and you feel overwhelmed, I recommend asking yourself some questions …
Do you want the toy just to stimulate your clit? Or do you want something to penetrate your vagina too?
If you just want clit stimulation, go with a small bullet.
If you want vaginal penetration, get a dildo or vibrator … if you want both at the same time (yes, you can have both at the same time!), then I recommend a ‘rabbit’ style vibrator.
Or, if you have a bullet and vibrator then don’t be afraid to use both simultaneously.
“Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!” Juliet Allen
Choosing the ‘right’ sex toy may mean that you go through a couple of toys until you find the right one for you (kinda like lovers).
When you receive your toy in the mail (don’t worry, all online companies make the packaging VERY discreet, so your flat mate won’t know what it is!) give it a good wash in warm soapy water before using it, and make sure you have a water based lubricant as well.
Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!
Take your time and remember that self-pleasure is a healthy and fun part of life and that sex toys are the perfect accompaniment a self-pleasure session.