Let’s Talk Butt Sex, Anal Sex is so Lowbrow

Not all sphincters are created equal!

Anal sex is so last season, we prefer the more highbrow butt sex! Let’s get into it.

So you’re interested in exploring another of your erogenous zones, good for you!

The back door has a few extra special rules you must follow. So read to the very bottom of this blog and practice these basic steps: consent, health, communicate, lubricate, and a big dose of patience.

#1 Consent

#2 Health

  • Never, ever, ever, put anything inside your butt you cannot hold onto! We recommend always having a good sized flared base on the object to reduce the risk of it being sucked into the anus (Anal Suck). Your butt muscles are super strong, especially during orgasm, and lubricated fingers are super slippery.
If you do lose any object into your butt (or anyone else’s!) seek medical help immediately, that sucker is more than likely not coming back out on it’s own and can do serious damage.
  • If you are exploring with fingers ensure the fingernails are short and smooth, the anus is delicate.
  • If you have hemorrhoids do not engage in anal sex until you have discussed the risks with your doctor.
  • We strongly recommend not using any item designed to numb the anal area (cream, drug, lubricant etc.). Numbing the butt effectively dulls nerves and masks pain, without this pain sensation you and/or your partner(s) will not be aware of tearing and other harms being caused to the anus in question.
  • Anal sex shouldn’t be painful. If pain occurs, stop immediately. Do not continue if you have a tear or damage to the anus and seek medical advice.
  • Match your lubrication to your protection. Only water-based lubricants with latex condoms, never use petroleum or oil based lubricants (e.g. Vaseline, massage oil) as a chemical reaction occurs and weakens the strength of the condom which could cause it to break.
  • Wear protection, the penetration of any orifice; anal; vaginal; and oral, comes with a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI’s). So, we strongly recommend using condoms during anal sex (well all sex actually!).
Warning if you have a latex allergy we do stock a number of latex free products. Vavven’s Latex Free Barrier Protection.
  • Never change from anal penetration to vaginal penetration without changing condom or washing the penetrating object totally.
  • If you’re using fingers ensure you wash your hands very well prior and after anal play.
  • If you choose to douche (cleaning faecal matter from the anal area) be mindful of how much you do this, as over douching can have health implications. Douching is a personal preference, but we do not sell douching kits because we all know, milk, milk, lemonade, around the corner…
  • And with this in mind the area has a unique fragrance which will over time impregnate your intimacy toys, so we recommend always using them with a condom to reduce the lingering aroma.

#3 Communicate

Communication is exceptionally important in all stages of anal sex.

  • Prior to butt sex, talk to your partner to ensure you’re both signed up for the same activity.
  • During anal sex, ensure the person being penetrated is the one in control. Consider your position to ensure this control. Talk to each other about the force, speed, and depth of penetration.


#4 Lubricate

Your butt is not self-lubricating and actually absorbs moisture, so make sure you lubricate well and reapply regularly. Dry penetration can cause lesions in the fine skin tissue, if a lesion or tear occurs in the anal area seek medical advice immediately.


#5 Patience

It’s the journey, not the destination that matters!

  • Take your time, allow the person being penetrated to lead the charge.
  • Focus on enjoying each stage, not having a finish line.
  • This can time (sometimes many months) to work your way to the size of a penis or dildo being inserted into your anus
  • Starting with a well lubricated finger is a great way to explore the sensation and get the anus comfortable with something small. If you’re using intimate toys (see warning above), start small and work your way up when and if you desire.

Lacy Greens Butt Sex – Can not see? Change your youtube settings to 18+. Trust us, all will be fine.

Best of luck with your butt.

“Anal sex is like brussel sprouts, an acquired taste” Cyndi Darnell

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