Vaginal Dryness It’s Quick And Easy To Solve

Vaginal Dryness

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Explore the ins and outs of Vaginal Dryness with us.

What vaginal dryness is, how common it is, its symptoms, causes including diabetes and dyspareunia, treatment, how personal lubricants can help, which lubricant base is best, tips on how to apply the lubricant in both the everyday situation and for sexual encounters.

Experiencing vaginal dryness can not only be uncomfortable but it can
also be frustrating too. Trying to seek pleasure when watching videos on lxtube.com or even
when with a partner and being completely dry can be disheartening and
ruin your sex drive, but fear not, there are ways to get around dryness.

Learn about ways to make sex with vaginal dryness easier, and how to help both your partner and yourself through the changes.

What is Vaginal Dryness?

In a perfect world our vagina stays naturally moist and elastic with a thin layer of clear fluid in part triggered by the hormone oestrogen. A decline in oestrogen levels, vulvovaginal atrophy, can lead to changes in our vagina and genital tissues where the vaginal mucosa becomes thinner, drier and the vulva more vulnerable to pain and infections.

This pain can be with sexual intercourse or something as everyday as walking, causing great distress in our relationships with ourselves and our special others.

Not all vaginal dryness is oestrogen related. When someone talks about vaginal dryness what they are actually talking about is a lack of moisture in different areas of the vulva. This may be a dryness of the entire vulva, or just a part. The dryness may not always be there, it may come and go. It’s also safe to say that vaginal dryness can impact every female, it
can even affect those that are extremely sexually active and have a high
sex-drive such as actresses you may see on Porn-HD and the many other
porn sites spread over the world-wide-web. Don’t be afraid of trying to
combat your vaginal dryness because you think it has something to do
with you or your partner.

Vaginal dryness is a symptom of something else and should be discussed with your doctor.

Vaginal moisture is required to keep the vagina lubricated and healthy, while having sex the Bartholin’s glands produce extra moisture for lubrication. The vaginal fluids which are mainly produced by the cervix at the top of the vagina are slightly acidic. This acidity helps fight against infections, such as thrush, and clean the vagina.

The main things to know about vaginal dryness are:

  1. It’s very common
  2. Under discussed
  3. Usually easily treatable
  4. Can affect vagina owners at any age or stage of life &
  5. It’s a symptom of something else and should be discussed with your doctor.

How Common is Vaginal Dryness?

Very. It’s estimated approximately half of all postmenopausal people experience vaginal dryness. In a study of breast cancer survivors, vaginal dryness was present in 23.4% of the premenopausal and in 61.5% of the postmenopausal people.

Another study on Australians found 16.7% had vaginal dryness, but unlike many countries we also have a strong relationship with our health providers and are discussing the issue. The same study found 48.6% of us discussed our sex-life with our doctor, and our doctors regularly recommend lubricants as the treatment for the symptom of vaginal dryness.

What Are The Vaginal Dryness Symptoms?

To start with the most noticeable symptom is often a lack of lubrication during intercourse.

But over time depending on what has caused the vaginal dryness, there may be a loss of vaginal elasticity, thinning and drying of the vaginal lining, vaginal shortening and narrowing, the cervix may become flush with the vaginal wall, small tears in the vaginal epithelium may occur and can cause vaginal spotting, discharge may become a thin watery yellow or grey, pH may rise causing the vagina to become less acidic and lose some of the bacteria used to fight against infections.

Again we stress it’s important for a doctor to look at these symptoms, as although a vaginal pH of 4.6 can mean vulvovaginal atrophy, it can also be due to a bacterial vaginosis.

No matter how your vaginal dryness is occurring it can cause: irritation, itching and burning; soreness of the vulva; discomfort; and difficulty exercising. This can all lead to dyspareunia, which is difficulty with or painful sexual intercourse.

What Causes Vaginal Dryness?

Just as the symptoms of vaginal dryness are so varied, so are the causes.

Given the causes of vaginal dryness are so varied it’s an important reason to bust the myth that vaginal dryness is only something postmenopausal people experience. Not knowing vaginal dryness can strike for other reasons is why so many people suffer in silence not knowing what is wrong and feeling ashamed to talk about it.

The potential causes for a dry vulva are many, and they including:

  • childbirth
  • breast-feeding
  • oral contraceptives
  • menopause and perimenopause (this is the time leading up to menopause)
  • advanced endometriosis
  • radiation
  • chemotherapy
  • surgical removal of ovaries
  • anti-oestrogen medications
  • allergy medications
  • immune disorders
  • intense vaginal hygiene
  • washing powders
  • swimming pool and spa chemicals
  • some tampons
  • excessive intake of alcohol or caffeinated beverages or nicotine
  • excessive exercise
  • sjogren’s syndrome
  • multiple sclerosis
  • diabetes
  • anxiety
  • stress
  • past traumatic sexual experiences
  • lack of foreplay or arousal

– to name just a few.

How Does Diabetes Impact Vaginal Dryness?

Those of us living with diabetes are more likely to experience sexual issues, 42% of of us according to one study. This same study also found those with diabetes have a 33% increased rate of vaginal dryness. And if you are postmenopausal the chances of having painful intercourse are 3.48 times greater than non-diabetic postmenopausal people, and it should be noted vaginal dryness occurs in half of the non-diabetic postmenopausal population.

Some of the reasons for this increase with diabetes include vaginal changes due to functional vascular changes, neuropathy, or tissue glycosylation related to diabetes and side effects from the diabetic medications. Thrush, which equally will make sexual intercourse uncomfortable, is also an extremely common condition due to the high blood glucose levels.

Again check in with your doctor and gain the best treatment and advice. And if that treatment happens to involve lubrication, we’d love to help you out. Vavven has a great range of body safe and ethical lubricants to put the pleasure back in your stride.

What Causes Dyspareunia, Painful Sex?

Dyspareunia is painful vaginal intercourse, it can be before, during or after intercourse and does not require penetration to be painful.

Many commentators note dyspareunia can cause relationship issues due to a loss in sexual interest. Although we believe a good sex life is healthy and that dyspareunia can be an issue which can affect your sex life, we believe the most important step for you is gaining medical help to find the root cause of the pain.

Dsypareunia will only cause an issue for your relationship if you are not open with your special other and discuss what’s going on. Sure you still want to be able to interact in the closeness sexual pleasure brings, but maybe broadening your horizons on how pleasure can be found will help greatly while you work with your doctor to solve the dyspareunia.

Not having adequate moisture, also called vaginal dryness, can lead to Dyspareunia but this is just one of many causes of dysareunia. It can also be caused by other factors such as, infection, illness, surgery, stress, anxiety, and it may even be psychological. Treatment will be varied and this is why talking with both your doctor and your special other is extremely important.

Infections can come from a number of places, and once your vagina is experiencing any issues (dryness, infection etc) it can become a cycle if not treated.

Follow this link to learn more about dyspareunia and its causes and treatments.

Is Lubricant The Best Treatment For Vaginal Dryness?

Well the short answer is no, it’s not the best treatment for vaginal dryness. But yes it is the best treatment for the symptom of vaginal dryness, that is, a dry vagina.

A water based lubrication can add moisture and reduce friction for a short period of time. Silicon based lubricant doesn’t add moisture but it reduces friction for a greater amount of time than water based lubricants. Hence both lubricants can provide a much welcome relief from the discomfort of a dry vagina.

It should be noted the wrong lubricant, one which contains ingredients you react to or of a non-recommended osmolality rating, could also be the cause of your vaginal dryness.

A study found Australians had the greatest level of awareness of personal lubricants (92%), and also showed the greatest percentage of vagina owners who have used lubricants (59.7%), with 47.6% having used them in the past year.

The best treatment for vaginal dryness is not just to treat the symptom but to check in with your doctor and discuss the issue. As seen above the causes are so varied, if you treat the symptom without also discussing the issue with a professional you may be masking a much larger health issue.

Chatting with a doctor is not hard, just say ‘hey I’m experiencing vaginal dryness, I’ve found a great lubricant to treat the symptom but I wanted to check there isn’t something we should test to make sure it’s not part of a bigger issue?’

Sure you’ll feel a little embarrassed but truly your doctor will not. They’re there to help you and preventive care is a big part of their work. They have no idea what to test you for if you’re not honest about your symptoms, so when you’re deciding what symptoms to discuss, discuss them all, what seems unrelated to you may not be to them.

What’s A Personal Lubricant and How Does It Help with Vaginal Dryness?

Personal lubricants can do two things

  • reduce the friction between two surfaces, such as, skin touching skin or skin touching intimate toys or condoms. It allows one surface to glide across the other without grabbing. This can help to reduce genital skin irritation during sex & lower the risk of condoms breaking. It also just feels damn good. And
  • if using a water-based lubricant of the correct osmolality, it can hydrate your dry skin

But although personal lubricants can make sex and many other activities pleasurable again, they are treating a symptom. So check in with your doctor and find the root cause of the issue, the treatment may still be the same but knowledge is queen.

Is Water or Silicone Lubricant Best For Vaginal Dryness?

There are four classes of lubricants: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid (a mix of water and silicone).

We recommend working with water, silicone or hybrids as oil-based lubricants (vaseline, baby oil etc) can cause vaginal irritation and are not recommended for use with latex condoms.

With irritation in mind also be careful with lubricants containing additives for warming or flavour, as these may irritate a vagina. We stress the word ‘may’ as majority of people will not have a problem, and they may be fabulous for you and your sexual adventures. However, other people may prefer something a bit more natural, like this Nature Mary Curious Intimate Oil, especially is they have sensitive skin. So just take a few seconds pre-use and do a spot test on a small patch of skin to help find any reactions.

The main differences between water-based and silicone-based personal lubricants with respect to vaginal dryness are:

Water-based lubricants are absorbed by the outer layers of the skin. With the correct osmolality this can provide a moisturising or hydrating impact on your vaginal tissue, helping with elasticity and reducing friction. However all water-based lubricants will become tacky while using them. The better the quality of water-based lube the longer this takes to happen.

Tip: add a couple of drops of water to free up the grip, or try a different water-based lube, or try a silicone-based lube.

Silicone-based lubricants are particularly suitable for the most extremely sensitive skin / mucosa as they are not absorbed into the skin cells. Silicone molecules remain on the surface providing a long-lasting lubrication with a silky smooth feeling until you decide to wash it off. Our silicone based lubes do not contain preservatives, are allergy-friendly and dermatologically excellent.

In summary, water-based lubes are great for re-hydrating, while silicone-based lubes are amazing for physical activity such as sex, swimming, cycling etc. You may find your vaginal dryness treatment is a combination of both of these lubes: water-based for everyday use assisting with hydration and elasticity, while applying a silicone lubricant for extra physical activities when you really don’t want the lubricant to wear out.

How to Apply Personal Lubricant for Vaginal Dryness During Everyday Use?

Everyday application will get faster over time (or slower if you like), but even to begin with it’s rather quick and extremely easy.

Just wash your hands, put a couple of drops of lubricant on your fingers, and gently rub around the outer area of your vagina. When ready, add a couple of extra drops to your finger and slip your finger into your vagina and spread the lubricant around.

This lubricant can be silicone or water based, we recommend water for its hydrating properties but this will require reapplication more often than silicone lubricant. You may also want to choose silicone for allergy or activity reasons.

How to Apply Personal Lubricant for Vaginal Dryness When Having Sex?

Now this one is the one you’re probably a little afraid of, but don’t be. Applying lubricant can be a very intense and sexy part of foreplay, a time when your partner really gets to explore with you.

This exploring could be your partner gently drizzling the lubricant onto your vagina then spending time watching while either of you massages it in. This is a tease for both of you and can be great if your partner is having erectile difficulties as it aids in reducing the anxiety. Watching you masturbate can teach your partner what you like, and knowing how to give you an orgasm without the use of their penis can be a massive emotional relief for many people.

Another sensual way to apply your lubricant if your partner has a penis is to put a few drops in your hand and start stroking and massaging the penis. When you are ready to go further, you may want to add a drop extra to your vagina before climbing onto that penis and seeing where things go.

Never be afraid to stop and add a little more, especially if the lubricant is water-based it can get sticky. The better the quality the longer they last, but a sprinkle of water will free up the grab!

Never be afraid to stop all together and try non-penetrative sex. This is extremely hot! The main thing to remember is your partner wants to connect with you and this doesn’t need to be a sexual connection alone. So make sure that connection is not blocked of by sexual issues. Communicate and find ways through the issues together.

If you choose not to communicate and you block your partner out, they’ll naturally arrive at their own conclusions about why sex isn’t working for you both. These conclusions will often be self-focused and wrong believing the disconnection is due to a lack of love, or lust, or their bedroom ability… So if you care for your partner as much as you think you do, show this love by communicating and not letting them go through this emotional anguish of not knowing what has gone wrong.

You may be pleasantly surprised with how good your sex life can be when you work on thinking outside the box with your partner. Opening your mind to better foreplay and a less rigid definition of sex, that is, sex not just being penetrative intercourse, is sure to make you wish you had experimented much earlier.

Ways to Make Sex with Vaginal Dryness Easier?

Most of the time a bit of lubricant will make sex feel amazing, but if penetrative sex is still painful, don’t do it!

This certainly doesn’t mean sex is off the menu, it just means you’re going to ‘plate up’ a little differently.

  • Step one – talk with your partner so they know what is going on
  • Step two – think about sex outside the box together
  • Step three – go to town.

Talk To Your Partner

No one is a mind reader. If you care for your partner, then talk with them about what you are feeling. You do not need to know the answers, or the reasons, or anything. Just be honest and make sure they know this isn’t due to them.

Let your partner know you still think they are very sexy and you want to explore other ways to connect. Let them know you would like to explore your relationship with non-penetrative sex.

If you’re feeling a little embarrassed about the conversation or your thoughts, just say so. Give room in the conversation for them to step out of their comfort zone also.

Think Outside the Box

Things you may traditionally call foreplay, such as deep kissing, wandering hands and oral sex are forms of non-penetrative sex. Good foreplay is often lost in long term relationships as with familiarly comes a hot pursuit for the genitals. Sometimes we forget to ring that doorbell a few times before entering.

This is a time to use as a new and exciting chapter, as a chance to learn to linger longer and really enjoy your partner. A chance to bring back the old foreplay and learn how to take it all the way to orgasm.

Think sexy, do you know of anyone that wouldn’t find watching their partner masturbate orgasmic? Well rubbing lube onto your vulva while laying on your back and your legs open is a site your partner will climax with while masturbating. It’s extremely hot and sexy.

Sure joint masturbation may be hard to ask for, especially if you’re a ‘sex with the lights out’ sort, but we’re very confident your partner wants it. If eye contact is hard to start with, drop your head of the edge of the bed. We guarantee over time you’ll both enjoy watching!

Explore oral sex more, giving each other beautiful pleasure, or just one of you enjoying all the delightful pleasure. Mix it up with flavoured lubricants and maybe some dress ups.

Maybe you do not want your genitals touched at all and that’s ok, you can still be sexy and sensual. Stimulate your partner’s skin, stimulate your own skin. Use ticklish strokes or old fashioned passionate kisses. Keep those kisses going over every part of your partner; giving sexual pleasure can be just a rewarding as receiving it.

And don’t forget the anus you both have one and it’s orgasmic. Butt sex is often left alone because it’s taboo, but this is your bedroom, your relationship, and your connection.

Tip: Butt sex requires lots of lube and never put anything in there that doesn’t have a flared base.

If neither of you have experienced anal sex before, don’t just go crazy and charge in. Anal sex takes preparation, time, and it also takes many forms. Keep in mind if experiencing pain with vaginal sex, you may find anal is a no go for you. But you may find it’s a new and exciting world being opened for your partner.

Don’t think if your partner has a penis they will not enjoy anal stimulation. They more than likely will, but just like any new venture it will take time and understanding. Also keep in mind they may actually hate it, so no is no.

We’re preconditioned by society to have a lot of shame and guilt around certain sexual desires, and it can take a lot of work to ensure it’s only you and your partner in the bedroom, not all the social hang-ups. This chapter really comes down to you putting your partner, your pleasure, and your love before society. It’ll take time but it’ll be worth it.

If you are going down the rabbit hole that is anal, we suggest starting with a single finger (ensure your nails are not long or sharp) to begin exploring and work your way to a penis or a dildo (which must have a flared base). This guide will teach you safe and erotic anal play.

Go To Town

It’s show time, time to put your thoughts into practice.

You’ll be nervous, it’s uncharted water. Think of this as a positive, did you ever think you would get that first kiss again? Did you ever think you would be learning the unknown about a partner again? This is new and exciting, and you’re safe with someone you love.

Enjoy the journey.

Are There Lubricants For People With Allergies?

Yes we have lubricants that suit people with allergies, suffer from neurodermatitis, highly sensitive skin, and are preservative free.

We recommend pjur med PREMIUM glide, the ingredients are of such purity they ensure ideal skin compatibility and are confirmed as allergy-friendly and paraben free. Premium Glide is a silicone based lubricant providing a protective film on the skin, without clogging the pores, and leaves behind a silky smooth feeling while ensuring extra-long and sustained lubrication. See: pjur med Premium Glide

Visit Vavven’s full range of body safe lubricants and request a free sample below if you would like to try the pjur med range.

Free pjur med Lubricant Sample Pack

We have a number of wonderful lubricants to help you out and a free sample kit will help you select. Simple fill in the form. If you need any help or have any questions please send us an email at bemore@vavven.org

How to Help Your Partner with Vaginal Dryness?

So you think your partner has vaginal dryness and you’re not sure how to help?

Well just the fact you care enough to search for some answers shows us you already have the empathy needed to find the answers with your partner.

The best things you can do are communicate with your partner, be a good listener, be supportive and be patient. Encourage your partner to discuss the topic with their doctor, and try and maintain your connection in ways other than just sex.

If your partner is beginning to fear sex due to pain, they may also try and avoid any contact which normally ends in sex. Try reading to each other, just laying and cuddling, sleeping naked to touch each other’s skin, regularly kissing, and not letting any of these acts lead to sex.

A fear of painful sex can go beyond the physical; it can trigger all sorts of emotions and lead to a pain cycle which may continue even after the pain has been treated. Work on learning to relax together and alone, but this may actually need help from a psychologist or a good sex therapist. Keep the communication open.

Vaginal dryness can be caused by so many things, hence the importance of chatting to a doctor. But any issue we experience with our sexual self is heightened by shame, embarrassment, or the guilt we are taught to carry through society. And yes sometimes this conditioning is stronger than the will to maintain a sexual connection with you while dealing with this massive change. So be mindful that getting your partner to speak opening may take time, but it’s time well spent.

Read the section above on ‘Ways to Make Sex with Vaginal Dryness Easier’, and think of creative ways to help yourselves work through this time.

Standard run of the mill vaginal dryness is still something to discuss with the doctor, but maybe you could be the one that breaks the silence in your next sexual encounter with ‘I grabbed this lube, my mates were talking about how good it feels. Want to try it?’ Keep your partner in mind when selecting the lube; does your partner normally have allergies? Are they vegan? … Vavven lubricant range.

Vaginal dryness caused by menopause could potentially be a big shock for you. This is such a huge change – hormonal, physical and psychological – for the person experiencing it and they need time to come to terms with this new ‘them’ before they can find ways to hold sexual connections tight.

Your partner may not really understand what is happening yet and this is because everyone will experience menopause differently, some will cruise through while others will experience mood alterations, insomnia and hot flushes, to name a few.

Menopause can impact your sex life for a few reasons, a drop in testosterone can cause a lower libido, and drops in oestrogen can cause vaginal dryness.

Yep you guessed it – the best thing you can do is wait, love, listen, be, and encourage your partner to talk with their doctor.

We mention listening a lot, because we’re hardwired to ‘fix’ things. But there are times in life when knowing you are there is really all our partner needs from you.

How does Vaginal Dryness Affect Partners?

Looking after yourself is very important, having your connection with your partner change is scary, and no one enjoys a sense of not being loved.

It’s important you look after yourself emotionally and physically. Work on your own emotional baggage to ensure you’re not trying to make this change about you. Chat with your doctor about these changes and how you are feeling, try to encourage a joint trip to the doctor and show you are both in this together.

Educate yourself by reading and listening. And most of all try and really understand why something is happening, for example, if your partner asks to sleep in a different bed this may be about concern over keeping you awake with hot flushes etc. So don’t jump to the conclusion that it’s about you.

This is your special other and you’ll both survive without sex for a while if needed, but this period will be shortened if you focus on what your special other needs, and not just focus on the loss of sexual connection.

The sexual connection will return with work, the important thing is to maintain your emotional and physical connection through touch and caring. Don’t be afraid to seek help from a range of different areas – sex therapist, psychologist, dietitian, physiotherapist, doctor…

And it’s perfectly normal to still need sexual release without guilt. You do not need your partner for sexual release, although is nice to have them around, we’re sure you’ve got what it takes to really get back in touch with yourself!

Masturbation is great for sexual release, it’s great for health and blood flow, and it’s great for learning what you enjoy. We have amazing products to help you masturbate (which can also work for couples play when everyone is ready). But if you’re not ready for our amazing products just yet, we’re guessing you more than likely have a perfectly good hand, so use it 🙂

Do You Recommend A Sex Therapist?

You bet ya, we love them.

And it’s a pleasure to recommend Cyndi Darnel who is a leading well-being therapists & relationship educator.

Cyndi runs skype, phone, and in person consultations so location isn’t an issue.

We recommend Cyndi because she is empathetic, practical, looks at the whole picture, and is really down to earth.

Cyndi’s website is http://cyndidarnell.com/

The Ideal pH for the vulva is 4.5 & the ideal pH for the anus is 5.5-5.7
Osmolality is the concentration of a water-based lubricant.

Very hypo-osmotic lubricants can cause the tissue cells of your vulva, anus, or penile urethra (your pee hole) to absorb enough water that they can burst and die. And very hyper-osmotic lubricants can cause your body cells to release enough water that they can dehydrate and die.

The majority of lubricants on the market are hyper-osmotic!

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO) damaged cells in this area can become irritated and more susceptible to infection “for example by HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)”

We have a full post on osmolality and how to select a body safe lubricant. Follow the link – Osmolality

Yep, lube at any age is normal.

There seems to be the thought that younger women do not need to use lubrication, and if they do, they have a problem like they are not into their partner or something. But lubrication and arousal do not always reflect each other, sure the vagina is self lubricating, but the amount of self-lubrication changes for many reasons; stress, exhaustion, hormones, medications, and much more can all play a part.

And if your favourite orifice is the anus, well that one isn’t self lubricating, so everyone involved will thank you for a splash of lubricant down there.

Sex and water is a good topic to chat about as the water will induce more friction making your junk way to grippy for comfort, so you’ll definitely want lubricant for sex in water.

First we should note condoms work under water, but without lubricant they are more likely to break.

We recommend silicone lubricant for underwater play. Silicone is the best lube for water sex as it coats the skin with a slippery layer and doesn’t wash away with water alone, unlike water based lubricants.

When you use silicone lubricants anywhere, especially in wet areas, a once grippy surface such as the shower floor can become extremely slippy and dangerous if silicone lube goes further than needed.

If you’re thinking about this lube for water play outside keep in mind not all waterways are clean, and your home spa or pool’s chlorine levels can leave some body parts feeling rather uncomfortable afterwards. But have fun you dog you!

We recommend pjur med PREMIUM glide lubricant if you suffer from mycotic infections as it does not contain glycerin. This product’s ingredients are very pure making it ideal for highly sensitive skin. The lubricant provides a protective film over the skin, without clogging the pores, and leaves behind a silky smooth feeling while ensuring extra-long and sustained lubrication. It has also been confirmed as allergy-friendly in numerous tests.

If you suffer repeatedly from mycotic infections we recommend not using a water-based products as the glycerin can strengthen bacterial growth.

See pjur med PREMIUM glide lubricant

We recommend pjur med PREMIUM glide for sensitive and highly sensitive skin. The ingredients of this product are of such purity that they ensure ideal skin compatibility. The lubricant provides a protective film on the skin, without clogging the pores, and leaves behind a silky smooth feeling while ensuring extra-long and sustained lubrication. It has also been confirmed as allergy-friendly in numerous tests.

See: pjur med Premium Glide

The difference between water and silicone lubricants is a/ the way they are absorbed into your skin (important if you have allergies) and b/ the period of time they last.

Water or Silicone based just means this is the main chemical used in the lubricant. We should note it is also possible to get a water and silicone based lubricant all in one! But anyway…

Water-based lubricants

Water based lubricant is absorbed by the outer layers of the skin. This means the lubricant is sucked into your body, like a rag socks up water. Water lubricants give a pleasant feeling of smooth silkiness, but they can be come sticky or tacky during use. However, your pjur med range has up to six times longer glide than conventional water based lubricants. Having said this, over time all water-based lubricants will become a little sticky and this can be helped by spraying or adding a couple of drops of water on the lubricated area to reduce the grab, or being super quick! Using a silicon-based lubricant will remove this issue all together.

Water-based lubricants are also very easy to clean up with water, however this also means they are not so great for water play such as spa sex.

Silicone-based lubricants

Silicone based lubricants are not absorbed by the outer layers of skin as much as water based lubricants. The silicone molecules do not penetrate the skin, they create a thin film of microscopic balls layering the skin and allow other objects to glide over. Due to not being absorbed by the skin, silicone lubricants are normally suitable for sensitive skin / mucosa. Silicone lubricants remain on the surface creating a long-lasting lubrication and a silky smooth feeling on the skin that will last until you decide to wash it off. Our range of lubricants do not contain preservatives; is allergy-friendly; and dermatologically excellent.

see Vavven water-based lubricants or Vavven silicone-based lubricants

Lubricants reduce the friction between two surfaces, such as, skin touching skin or skin touching intimate toys or condoms. It allows one surface to glide across the other without grabbing. This can help to reduce genital skin irritation during sex & lower the risk of condoms breaking. It also just feels damn good.

Whatever you need it for, lubricant can be an amazing tool. So grab a bottle and slide yourself into some pleasure!

A lubricant is a substance that helps to reduce friction. There are many different intimate personal lubricants, but the idea is the same – to provide extra moisture to the intimate areas of your body.

Vavven has an excellent range of lubricants which are skin-friendly; dermatologically tested; neutral taste and odour; free of paraffines, parabens and colour additives; hormone free; do not contain spermicidal substances; and are latex condom safe.

Well done on creating a wonderful mess, we hope you had a great time making it!

Silicone-based lubricants will stain clothing and bedding if it comes in contact. The stain can not always be removed, however, we have had success after 3 or 4 washes with most commercially available detergents at the garment prescribed temperature.

Good luck you lucky dog you!

Well first up, congrats & good luck on your baby making journey!

We currently only have information pertaining to this request within our pjur lubricants range.

Luckily for all you baby-makers out there, the pjur range is neutral with regard to sperm activity as it contains no spermicide substances.

In fact, the formulas are optimally aligned with the pH value of the vagina, hence not affecting the mobility or life expectancy of spermatozoa, nor does it have any influence on the natural vaginal fluid.

But it won’t help you conceive either, pjur products have neither a positive or a negative influence on a desired pregnancy. Unless you count helping to make your sexy times sexier, in which case, it definitely does the trick!

Well lubricant can often mean the difference between amazing sex and painful sex, because even a small reduction in friction can make the world of difference in such sensitive areas. Lubrication has the ability to make things that already feel good, feel even better and it can also aid in protection against STIs.

Vulva / Vagina

The vagina is self lubricating, but the amount of self-lubrication changes for many reasons; stress, exhaustion, hormones, medications, and much more can all play a part. It is important to note that lubrication and arousal do not always reflect each other. So feel no shame when you reach for this handy helping friend.

Anus

The anus is not self lubricating so it is basically essential in this zone.

By helping reduce friction, lubricants enhance numerous functions: foreplay, self love, massage, and sexual intercourse. For example a drop or two of lubricant on your hand will make masturbation feel delightful.

A couple of important things to remember about lubricants

Always read the label and use only as directed
If something doesn’t feel right for you, emotionally or physically, stop and seek medical advice. There’s nothing your doctor hasn’t heard before, so get your money’s worth.
Within the Vävven product range only use water based lubricants with condoms, dams, and silicon intimate toys. The exception to the rule is the Non Latex Hypoallergenic Condoms which can be used with both water-based and silicon-based lubricants.

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Pelvic Floor & Kids – Learn the 3 Things You Need to Know

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Why’s Pelvic Floor Health Important?

If you’re a dad, mum, carer… then you need to have the ‘Pelvic Health’ conversations (note the plural) with your kids.

Early healthy conversations teach good lifelong habits and remove the shame associated with the pelvic region. This shame is created by us not talking openly in society about sexual health, of which pelvic health is a large component.

If you’re thinking these conversations may be too awkward to bring up with your kids, then you need to challenge yourself. Would you neglect teaching your kids to brush their teeth or to practice sun safety? I’m guessing the answer was no, so why should this area be any different. It’s not actually, pelvic health is simply no less important to your child’s lifelong health, wellbeing and happiness.

The aim of the pelvic health conversation is awareness

Awareness of what the pelvic floor does, when it’s working, and what their normal looks like. To know their own body means they will know change.

But before you have this conversation with your child, have it with your doctor. They will have insight into your child as an individual and give you age appropriate information on pelvic floor exercise, such as, what age to start, frequency and duration. Your doctor may even recommend not doing them as they may actually be too tight to start with. Some signs of this are pelvic pain, constipation, and difficulty starting urination.

What does the Pelvic Floor do?

Pelvic health is required to: control our bladder and bowel; support our internal organs; stabilise and support our spine; provide healthy erectile function and ejaculation; support our uterus during and after child birth to help prevent the uterus descending into the vagina; and enhance all genders sexual pleasure.

It is estimated up to 13% of men and 37% of women suffer urinary incontinence; 20% of men and 12.9% of women suffer faecal incontinence; half of us post child birth have pelvic organ prolapse, many occurring close to child birth but are more likely to occur near menopause, and one-fifth of which require medical attention; and we haven’t even touched the sexual wellbeing numbers.

The pelvic floor is the muscle set that holds all of your insides in, and provides functional control of our bladder, bowel, and uterus. It’s a very complex little set up with muscles darting all over the place and a few openings for the urethra, uterus and anus to pass through. The pelvic floor muscles wrap firmly around these openings to help keep the passages shut. It’s also of interest to know that the urethra and the anus each have a second sphincter to help with this function.

Pelvic Floor

The pelvic floor muscles can weaken for a number of reasons: surgery; constipation; heavy lifting; bladder and bowel problems; pregnancy; age; high impact exercise; and obesity, to name a few. And just as impacting but a much rarer occurrence is pelvic floor muscles that are too tight. The failing of the muscles to relax can prevent the bowel and bladder fully emptying, as well as causing difficulty with penetrative intercourse.

If you have an issue with your pelvic floor chat with your doctor, don’t self-diagnose, they did that university degree for a reason. If you’re in Australia follow this link to find your closest pelvic floor physiotherapist.

The best advice available for maintaining pelvic health is to:

  1. Exercise the pelvic muscles regularly from an early age (this may be as simple as walking see below);
  2. Have good health habits to try and prevent constipation, but also good toilet habits  to manage it when it occurs; and
  3. Discuss your pelvic health with a medical professional. They’ll be able to tell you what you need to know!

For our kids to be able to follow these three steps, then we need to talk with them about pelvic health just as we would about healthy eating. These conversations will teach them the basics at an early age and set them up for shame free pelvic health. Pelvic health is a practice to start young to create a healthy habit and reduce the likelihood of suffering sexual or functional issues.

But How Do You Teach Your Kids Pelvic Floor Exercises?

First of all remember the aim is body awareness, knowing where the pelvic floor is, how to operate it, and what their body normal is. Understanding their own body means they will notice changes with age.

With regard to kids resources, there isn’t that much out there unfortunately and what is out there is very gendered. This book may be helpful if your conversation is with someone who just lovvvvess pink and frills, but don’t let a lack of targeted resource slow you down.

We didn’t need a book or a video to show our kids how to brush their teeth, we just taught them from our own experience. So there is no reason why we can not teach them what and where their pelvic floor is, how to activate it, and how to relax it, after we’ve taught ourselves and sort medical guidance on recommended start age and frequency.

These two videos teach the same information in a simplistic way, but approach the lesson with different styles, so just see through the gendering, aging, and the prostate cancer references.

Two very important areas which are not discussed in the videos are:

  1. Normal daily activity: Standing and walking with good posture will work the pelvic floor. So an active healthy kid doesn’t need to go crazy with doing these exercises, they just need to be aware of their body and how it works, what can affect it, and to notice change and seek help if needed.
  2. Relaxing: After you tighten a muscle, let it go completely, let it relax. Learning deep breathing to relax the diaphragm will also relax the pelvic floor, as they are part of the same system. Deep breathing will also calm the nervous system and that’s a nice state in our modern active lives.  

So go to town. This a great skill for all you adults as well!

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A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

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Parabens In Personal Lubricants

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There is a lot of discussion about personal lubricants that contain parabens, a synthetic preservative, and if they are good for you.

Well we don’t agree with their use, but we cannot tell you conclusively that they’re bad for your health, all we can do is give you the existing science and let you make up your own mind.

Parabens are synthetic preservatives that your skin can absorbed. There is a whole family of parbens and they’re made by reacting an alcohol with p-hydroxybenzoic acid (the change in alcohol provides the varieties).

A review of research on Parabens between 2004 – 2008 by Darbre & Harvey found:

  • Intact parabens were present in human urine, meaning our bodies are not breaking down the chemicals
  • Parabens can be absorbed through our skin
  • Parabens were repeatedly shown to have estrogen disruption (ED) impacts
  • Parabens were genotoxic, meaning they can damage the genetic information in cells causing mutations

In 2013 the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health published a paper noting “EDs may be blamed for the rising incidence of human reproductive disorders. This constitutes a serious public health issue that should not be overlooked. Therefore, precautionary avoidance of exposure to EDs is a prudent attitude in order to protect humans and wildlife from permanent harmful effects on fertility.”

And a 2002 study exposing rats to currently acceptable levels of polyparabens resulted in reduced sperm production.

Where Are Parabens Found?

They’ve been used since the 1950s as a preservative (preventing bacteria growth). And they’re the most widely used cosmetic preservative. Parabens are also often used in pharmaceuticals and food. Yes your food!

Parabens health risks are certainly contested, but there’s good reason to believe this family could affect the natural hormone system (endocrine) of our bodies. And considering the paraben family is in so many of our daily products the real concern we see is the cumulative exposure.

Personal lubricants are placed in areas that allow for greater absorption, and they are used frequently. There are so many paraben free lubes on the market there is really no reason not to find an alternative.

How To Reduce Your Paraben Exposure?

This ingredient is everywhere, personal lubricants and other body care products, pharmaceuticals, cosmetics, even a host of food. So read the label and put down anything that contains something ending in ‘parabens’, it’s a big family.

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Lubricant Osmolality And Why It’s Important

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Osmolality. What Is It?

For our needs osmolality is simply the concentration of a water-based lubricant.

If you want to get slightly more technical – Osmolality is a measure of the concentration of dissolved particles per unit of water in a water based liquid and it’s measured in milliosmoles per kilogram (mOsm/kg).

Why Is Personal Lubricant Osmolality Important?

The osmolality of your water based lubricant is of interest because of where you place it, your vulva, anus, or penile urethra (your pee hole).

The outer layer of skin in these areas is made of cells that let water flow freely in and out of them as needed (non-keratinized for the sex nerds).

The cells do this trying to maintain equilibrium between themselves and whatever water based liquid is touching them.

So if the osmolality of your body area cells is different to the osmolality of the water based lubricant molecules, then your body cells will adjust by either absorbing water or releasing it.

What Does A Change In Cell Water Level Do?

If your body cells absorb enough water while trying to equalise, they can burst and die. This can happen if your lubricant is very hypo-osmotic, this is an uncommon product.

And if the body cells release enough water while trying to equalise, they can dehydrate and die. This can happen if your lubricant is very hyper-osmotic, and the majority of lubes on the market are hyper-osmotic!

How Do Damaged Cells In At My Anus, Vulva, or Penis Affect Me?

Dead and damaged cells in these tender body areas are an issue because

  1. the function of these cells is to help prevent dirt and bacteria from entering into your body and
  2. the area can become irritated and more susceptible to infection “for example by HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)” World Health Organisation.

“for example by HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)”

World Health Organisation.

Most commercial personal lubricants have high osmolalities (2000–6000 mOsm/kg). The normal osmolality of vaginal secretions is 260–290 mOsm/kg and in semen it is 250–380 mOsm/kg.

The World Health Organisation recommends their procurement agencies “should source lubricants with osmolalities of not greater than 1200 mOsm/kg.”

The big issue is checking your lubricant osmolality, because it is not on the label!

How Do You Buy Intimate Lubricant With The Correct Osmolality Range If It’s Not On The Bottle?

Speaking openly about sexual and reproductive health and rights (SRHR), means chatting about your bedroom and your lubricant osmolality and more research is needed in this field to keep us all safe.

To find a great lubricant, look for a supplier who carries educational information and only stocks body safe lubricants. Take Vavven™, for instance. A social enterprise that sells body safe adult toys to help promote SRHR in local communities and around the world, Vavven™ carries a broad spectrum of ethically produced products including lubricants which have had their osmolality range checked. They also continue to work with industry bodies and highlight issues to regulators.

Below is a list of osmolality for common lubricants.

Use and procurement of additional lubricants for male and female condoms: WHO/UNFPA/FHI360

The WHO recommend osmolality is less than 1200 mOsm/kg.

 The Ideal pH for the vulva is 4.5 & the ideal pH for the anus is 5.5-5.7

A Little Help Is Needed?

Lubricants certainly have a pleasure aspect due to the sensation, but there’s a much larger health aspect. Changes in moisture affect all vulva owners at any age, and the anus is not self-lubricating so lubricant is essential.

No matter who you are and how long you’ve been around, a drop or two of lubricant will bring a smile to all involved. Our personal lubricant range is body safe and fun, so give it a splash.

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Oral Dental Dams

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A Dam that Makes Oral and Dental Dams Exciting Again

Is there anybody out there who doesn’t enjoy good oral sex? Well, we don’t want to exclude anyone, but we’re sure that the vast majority of folks reading this appreciate a good lick now and then. Whether you’re into giving or receiving, though, and no matter what orifice you prefer to romance, it’s crucial that you do so responsibly.

That’s why the right forms of protection are a vital step towards the total enjoyment of any sexual act. Some people only think of protection when they think of genital-to-genital intercourse, but remember, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can spread in many ways. Protecting yourself during oral sex is just as important as protecting yourself during any other kind of action, and there are specific tools you should use for the job.

Take the dental dam, for instance. Also called oral dams, these nifty little things let you pretty much lick anything!

Hmmm… What is a Dental Dam?

The dental dam is a thin rectangular piece of material, normally latex, that is held in place over the vagina or the anus to create a protective barrier against STIs, when used correctly, and let you satisfying your partner by dining on their private parts.

Remember no product will eliminate all risk, but with a quality dam and the knowledge on how to use it, the less likely issues will occur.

The oral dam has been around for a while, but if you’re looking for the best possible protection during oral sex, you need to buy a quality dental dam and know how to use it correctly.

But how do you use an oral dam?

Well, we’re glad you asked. Here are six steps to have you licking just about anything.

#1 Know what it’s used for – Anilingus & Cunnilingus

Oral dams are NOT a replacement for what is commonly termed ‘the male condom’, we call it an ‘external condom’. Nor is the oral dam a contraceptive.

Dams are a barrier protection method to be used during two forms of oral sex – cunnilingus and anilingus.

Cunnilingus is using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partner’s vulva / vagina.

And anilingus is using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partner’s anus, this one is also called rimming.

Dams are NOT for engaging in the third type of oral pleasure, where one uses their mouth and tongue to stimulate a penis. Grab an external or male condoms for that, they also come in some very tasty flavours.

#2 Check your gear before you dive in

Firstly, make sure you store your dental dams in a cool dry place. Try the bedside table or the sock drawer.

Check the dam for tears or defects. Holding the dam up to the light, or checking that no water passed through while rinsing can assist with checking.

Read and follow the instructions on the packaging.

Tip: Wash off any of the powder from the dam, as it can cause yeast infections. And for the love of god, check the used by date. No-one likes a crusty dam.

#3 Master the technicalities

Make sure the dam is big enough to cover the intended area.

While you’re munching away, don’t stretch the dam, as this can cause it to tear. Simply lay and hold the dam in place over the vagina or anus to avoid direct mouth-to-vagina, mouth-to-anus, or vagina-to-vagina (tribadism / scissoring) contact.

The dam needs to be in place before any of this business begins and be sure that it is held in place for full the duration. Otherwise, you won’t be letting it do its job.

#4 Keep it smooth

Add a couple of drops of water based lubricant to the vagina or the anus or directly to the dam. This will increase the sensation as it allows the dam to glide across the orifice in question smoothly.

Don’t use oil based lubricants as it will degrade the material.

#5 No flippin’

Don’t flip your dam and use the other side. Dams are one side use only as this will transfer the body fluid and potentially STI’s.

#6 Keep it fresh

Dams are single use items only. Never reuse, no one likes a crusty dam. And be sure to dispose in the waste, NOT the toilet.

How to buy a quality dam?

How to buy a quality dam?

Shopping for the right dental dam isn’t like shopping for a pair of shoes though. Contemporary attitudes about sex and sexuality have a long way to go, which means that it isn’t always easy to find frank and honest information about the products you need to protect yourself.

You need to look for a product with a reputable medical approval to ensure it has been tested to prevent STI’s passing through the material

Fortunately, as time goes on, more and more people realise the importance of speaking openly about sexual and reproductive health and rights (SRHR).

Take Vavven™, for instance. A social enterprise that sells body safe adult toys to help promote SRHR in local communities and around the world, Vavven™ carries a broad spectrum of ethically produced products including oral dams from some of the best manufacturers in the industry.

Their Sheer Glyde Dams not only come in a range of fun and fruity flavours, they are the only products approved by both Europe and the FDA for barrier protection against STIs during oral sex (anilingus & cunnilingus), which means that using these dams is one of the most reliable methods of protection you can find anywhere.

So you’re ready to start licking but unsure about which flavour would be best, we do a tasting pack containing each flavour. A great reason to lick a little more.

TIP: If you have a Latex Allergy try cutting a Non Latex condom (internal or external) in half (down the full length of the condom) and lay it flat – this will work, but ensure you have adequate coverage of the area you plan to dine on! The internal condom will give you the greatest coverage.

Note the warning notes about some of the video content under the clip.

Stuff Mom Never Told You – HowStuffWorks

PLEASE NOTE: this video shows home made dams

  • Cutting condom – this will work, but ensure you have adequate coverage of the area.
  • Cling wrap – do NOT do this, while wrap is great for wrapping your burger, it’s not so good for eating them. Wrap can be porous and allow the transfer of STI’s.

Exciting Tastes for Sensible Folks

STIs can affect anybody at any age, so no matter who you are and how long you’ve been around, an oral dam is a prudent (and tasty) investment. Everybody enjoys a little flavour too, so why not give yourself a bit of fun with our flavoured dental dams? Our Glyde Dams come in flavours like wildberry, strawberry, vanilla and cola. They’ve also been made using a unique process that prevents them from smelling or tasting like latex. When you’re ready to order, contact Vavven™ at your earliest convenience. We’ll be more than happy to help you start dinning.

Well the short answer is it’s the power to lick anything!

Well almost.

A dental dam is a thin rectangular pieces of latex, which, when used correctly, acts as a protective barrier against sexually transmitted infections during annilingus (oral sex with an anus, also called rimming), cunnilingus (oral sex with a vulva), and tribadism (vulva-to-vulva contact, also called scissoring).

You simply lay and hold the dam in place over the vagina / vulva or anus in question, to avoid direct mouth-to-vulva, mouth-to-anus, or vulva-to-vulva contact.

Dams are not a contraception.

An interesting fact the dental dam as an oral dam was design by Australian Clive Woodworth, CEO of Glyde Health. The idea was born in 93′ at a sexual health conference between Clive and three others with a vision to make sex safe for all.

Read this article to learn more on how to use an oral dam and more.

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Eva by Dame Products Hands Free Couples Sex Toy Demo – Eva & Fin

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We’re excited to have Dame and their ethically manufactured products in our store. If you’re looking for the Eva please pay our store a visit.

DAME Making the world a happier place one vagina at a time.

CEO and Co-founder Alex Fine gives us a demonstration of both Eva and Fin, two sex toys she designed.

Eva is the worlds first truly hands-free couple vibrator. It provides clitoral stimulation while having sex with your partner and without the need to hold it in place. Two flexible wings (or arms) gently push against the outer lips of the vulva (they push from the inside) and Newtons third law takes care of the rest (you know that equal and opposite reaction stuff – who would have thought it would be so handy).

Being hands free and out of the way during penetrative sex, means it doesn’t get in the way of of your love making, allowing a boost of clitoral stimulation while leaving your hands free to move around and focus on intimacy.

Fin is a vibrator worn between your fingers and allows you to stimulate and massage any area you like with vibration (not just your junk but your partners too!). Great for foreplay, sex, or solo time. Small and cute, it’s sure to win your partner over in no time.

Read the transcript below, or watch the Youtube video above and please subscribe to the channel.

Transcript:

Eva

Jak: I’m excited, I’m here with Dame

Alex: I’m Alex Fine. I’m the CEO and co-founder of Dame Products.

Alex: Eva is our first sex toy, it’s a really ambitious product. Sometimes I’m like, why didn’t we pick something easier? You know, but it wouldn’t have been so unique and different.

Alex: So this is a hands free vibrator that a woman can wear during sex. So it’s got these bendable wings that tuck underneath the labia majora. Like so, if my mouth is the hole of the vagina.

Jak: And it holds in there.

Alex: Yes it’s hands free, you can wear it while you are having sex. Which is really nice. And I think that being hands free is good because you don’t realise how much you support your body with your arms and your hands while you’re having sex, and being able to support your weight is really important to being relaxed enough to have an orgasm.

Jak: Yes.

Alex: So that is one of the benefits of Eva.

Fin

Alex: This is our second product, it’s called Fin. It’s a finger vibrator, it’s very versatile, there are lots of different ways you can wear it and play with it, and like touch your partner. It’s really fun.

Jak: Yes. Dame as seen from the pamphlet, there’s no objectification, there’s no smuttiness, it is really quite high-brow, it’s really nice imagery.

Alex: Thank you we spent a lot of time trying to make people feel comfortable.

Jak: In short we have got a pretty revolutionary product that has come onto the market. And it sort of looks cute like it’s going to give you a hug as well. Thank you.

Alex: No problem it was really nice meeting you to.

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Tenga’s Sex Toy Demo – Iroha Tori, Flip 0 (Flip Zero), & Tenga Egg

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TENGA demonstrate how to use their ‘female pleasure product’, or external vibrator as we like to say, Iroha Tori. TENGA also demonstrate two of their penis masturbators – Flip 0 (Flip Zero), & the very popular Tenga Egg.

Jerry and Jak also discuss why TENGA designed a male masturbator disguised as an egg. A small glimpse into the unknown impact society has on sex toy design. Sex and Society.

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Iroha Tori

Jak: Now we’re here with Jerry from tenga and he has some pretty fantastic products to show us. So what have you got in your hands?

Jerry: Hello my name is Jerry, I have Iroha Tori in my hand. This is a female pleasure item. So we wanted something made quite cute and so squishy.

Jak: Oh OK, it’s really squishy like really squishy.

Jerry: Yes it is.

Jak: Yes I would not have thought it was, I would not have thought it was this texture from any of the pictures.

Jerry: Yes, and also the vibrator is very strong please feel it.

Jak: Yes it is. And very pinpointed, the vibration moves through the silicon really well. Any other interesting products?

Flip 0 (Flip Zero)

Jerry: Yes we do have a new product. It’s called Flip 0 (Zero). Flip Zero is for a penis. It’s a new high-end product. As you could see the very soft-silicone. Please touch it.

Jak: Yer it sort of almost feels like one of those toys when your kids you throw it against the wall, and it sticks and climbs down.

Jerry: Basically it’s made by TPE, so it’s very easy to use. Put some lubricant on it, and fold it put this in, and put this in. Put it onto your penis and squish it like this.

Jak: So that sort of squeezes. You can place pressure on the outside of it. Does it make a suction noise, like a cow pulling its foot out of mud?

Jerry: A little bit.

Jak: A little bit, not too much but a little bit.

TENGA Egg

Jak: These are a great tanga product.

Jerry: Cute TENGA Egg like this. Look at this it stretches a lot. And please see the inside texture it’s very cool. Basically it’s going to be the same texture as the outside picture, gotta be the same.

Jak: And what do you do with this?

Jerry: So, as you can see, it’s going to come with the one time lubricant on it. So you open it up, put some lube on it. And put it onto your penis.

Jak: So, ar penis?

Jerry: Yes penis.

Jak: OK and so what, it stretches right over it?

Jerry: Yes.

Jak: OK, very interesting.

Jak: So why is it disguised as an egg Jerry?

Jerry: Well because we wanted something cute and easy to carry in. Basically like we wanted something kind of cool, in use to be Japan, like these kind of sex toys were like always kind of gross. And kind of hard to carry and everyone’s kind of ashamed to carry it.

Jak: This is in Japan?

Jerry: Yes in Japan.

Jerry: We wanted something cool and easy to carry. And like, so like everybody could like talk about masturbation open. So we made these kind of cool products.

TENGA Masturbate Better

Jak: You have an interesting tagline at TENGA, so would you like to end it with your tagline?

Jerry: Ar should I say it?

Jak: Yer you can say it.

Jerry: TENGA has a very nice product, so everyone please try TENGA.

Jak: Yes thank you.

Jak: Isn’t your tagline ‘making masturbation better’?

Jerry: Yes.

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Fun Factory’s Sex Toy Demo – Thrusting Vibrator

Fun Factory demonstrate the thrusting dildo (or thrusting vibrator) which includes an automatic thrusting function at the shaft’s head causing the vibrator to move back and forth (pulsate).

The two sex toys they demonstrate from their thrusting line are the Stronic Thruster and Bi Stronic Fusion Thrusting Vibrator.

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Jak: I’m here with Laura and we are looking at Fun Factory.

Laura: I’m very happy to be here today to show you our product and our new launches.

Jak: What can you tell us about Fun Factory Laura?

Laura: Fun Factory is a German brand, we have our manufacturing in Germany.

Jak: This looks very interesting, would you be able to give us a demonstration?

Laura: This one is our Stronic Thrusting Vibrator.

Jak: These sex toys are body safe as well?

Laura: Yes our silicone is from Germany, it’s 100% medical silicone, it’s very velvet like.

Jak: And the Stronic Thrusting Vibrator works with magnets doesn’t it?

Laura: It’s not vibrating but pulsating. It’s a thrusting motion, imitating the natural motion of love making. Inside the core is a magnet, the toy has this thrusting movement. So it’s not vibrating but pulsating. And you have different speeds and patterns, yer and just to find your favourite one.

Laura: This one over here is a special one, because it has a second external motor which is vibrating. This sex toy is called the Bi Stronic Fusion Thrusting Vibrator. So it’s an external vibration in addition to the thrusting movements, and you can control the two motors independently.

Jak: Alright, well thank you very much for taking the time to show us your product line.

Laura: Thank you very much.

Fun Factory’s Bi Stronic Fusion

Fun Factory’s Bi Stronic Fusion will help trigger deeper and fuller orgasms. With its blend of immense strength and a revolutionary design to produce one of the most satisfying thrusting dildos available anywhere.

Looking to purchase the Fun Factory Bi Stronic Fusion Thrusting Vibrator? Vavven is a social enterprise selling ethical sex toys and raising funds for sexual wellbeing around the world, so purchasing through us means you are love – yourself, your special other(s), and the world – in a way that is both enjoyable and socially conscious. Click here to view the Fun factory Stronic.

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Honouring Your Vagina Begins With Self Pleasure

Vavven Vagina Self Pleasure Juliet Allen

Honouring your vagina begins with self-pleasure and keeping it compact so it’s time to redefine how we think and feel about our vagina’s.

The vagina (aka pussy, cunt, vulva etc) is often overlooked and misunderstood and definitely, in my opinion, not given the attention and love that it deserves.

“Our pussy is like a flower.”

It’s time to honour our vagina’s and treat them like the divine and exquisite temple that they are, allowing only amazing energy and love to enter our sacred space.

All too often we don’t give our pussy the love that it needs and deserves.

When we neglect our pussy it overflows into us not enjoying our sexuality in it’s fullness, and we definitely don’t reap the full benefit and pleasure of sex and love-making with others.

I know some of you out there honour Pussy like the God it is … but I also know that many of you don’t, and it’s time to change your ways.

Our pussy is like a flower (cliche, yes, but true) and for us to open our flower to you, you must meet us with a view that you are entering a sacred temple space.

You must also bring in healthy presence and a deep honouring of us in order for us to completely surrender to your touch and to your sexual energy.

“You must honour your pussy yourself.”

When our pussy feels honoured and a space is created for us to surrender, we will open creating deeper pleasure and increased capacity to experience deeper ecstasy and orgasm.

Before you begin manifesting lovers into your life who honour your temple, you must honour your pussy yourself.

Take time to explore your pussy, massage it, connect with it and give it what it wants and needs.

Begin an intimate and loving relationship with your pussy on a daily basis and feel what it truly desires.

When you can do that for yourself, you will then begin to notice your lovers will open to that energy, and in turn honour your temple in a new and more profound way.

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78% of cis women who use sex toys report being in a relationship, getting to know your vagina may be something you do by yourself to kick it off, or it could be a wonderful journey with your special other(s). These suggestions are a great starting place for connection.

Enjoy the journey.

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Sex Toys For Beginners: Your Vulva

Sex Toys For Beginners Your Vulva

A Guide to Sex Toys For Beginners: How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Your Vulva

Sex toys are all over the internet, literally at our fingertips if we want them … but how the hell do we pick the ‘right’ one out of the plethora of options online? From male sex toys to female toys, or toys for anal play and even toys for partners, there is simply a lot to choose from.

To help out I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you’re thinking of purchasing your very first sex toy, but don’t know where to start.

Let’s face it, there’s a toy for everything and everyone; vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, bullets, double enders … you name it, it’s out there.

Now the best option for you is to do your research, the sex world is your oyster. Find an online sex shop or two and see what gadgets you might like. Of course, you may find that you look at some products and wonder what the hell they are for?!

Don’t stress,

even I get confused with the look of some toys, and I’ve been a sexologist for years!

If it’s your first time and you feel overwhelmed, I recommend asking yourself some questions …

Do you want the toy just to stimulate your clit? Or do you want something to penetrate your vagina too?

If you just want clit stimulation, go with a small bullet.

If you want vaginal penetration, get a dildo or vibrator … if you want both at the same time (yes, you can have both at the same time!), then I recommend a ‘rabbit’ style vibrator.

Or, if you have a bullet and vibrator then don’t be afraid to use both simultaneously.

“Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!” Juliet Allen

Choosing the ‘right’ sex toy may mean that you go through a couple of toys until you find the right one for you (kinda like lovers).

When you receive your toy in the mail (don’t worry, all online companies make the packaging VERY discreet, so your flat mate won’t know what it is!) give it a good wash in warm soapy water before using it, and make sure you have a water based lubricant as well.

Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!

Take your time and remember that self-pleasure is a healthy and fun part of life and that sex toys are the perfect accompaniment a self-pleasure session.

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