Sexting in 2020 it’s Time to Demand Tech Companies Change

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Safe Sexting Vavven

What’s Sexting?

A few sexy images or a steamy text conversation is a great way to spice up the day between lovers.

Sexting is sending another person a sexually explicit image or message via any technological means.

It’s predominantly associated with mobile phones and nude pics sent between lovers. They’re certainly not uncommon, with 20% of teens 13-19 sending them and 33% of adults 20-26.

So if most of our sexting is between consenting people in relationships,

what’s the problem with sexting? It’s privacy!

Dr. Amy Adele Hasinoff , a communications researcher, highlights our privacy issue with technology is certainly not a new debate.

We’ve been here, and we’ve solved it.

History has show us many social issues have been born from technological advancement, but it also shows us industry has also stepped forward and solved many of the social issues which have occurred. The automobile industry and safety is a perfect example of such an instance.

If we have expected industry to assist in solving the social issues their technology enables, why are we choosing to send the ‘just don’t do it’ message to our young consenting adults when it comes to sexting?

Rather we should be demanding tech companies implement features to ensure consent levels prior to image sharing. It’s not like industry hasn’t come to the party to solve social issues before.

Many believe creating privacy around digital items is impossible, but it’s not. You can not purchase an e-book and just share it around, your doctor can not share your digital medical files, nor can your bank release your financials to the web.

Banning all sexting to solve privacy issues is like banning all dates to solve date rape, it’s illogical.

As Dr. Amy Adele Hasinoff argues in the TED talk below, the approach we have to sexting is all wrong. We should be focus our efforts on providing digital privacy via consent, rather than discouraging and criminalising it.

Our love stories, short and long, have played out with the assistance of the media of the era for as long as time. Love letters written and passionate sculptures erected to show our lust and love. Dr Hasinoff brings a great love story of 1886 to our attention, where a boy met a girl via the telegraph, and eloped.

One of the barriers to providing consent to images on social platforms, is the business models are built on the ‘share’. They want you to share, like, and engage, and the tech companies want to make this as easy as possible to do.

The second barrier is the lack of practical sexting laws and the will to implement them.

In the US sharing nude images of persons, even yourself, under the age of 18 is considered child pornography. An American paper from 2012 found people aged 17 and under made up 7% of all arrests for possession of child pornography in the US, this is double the 2000 figures.

The third barrier is our social tolerance of people who disseminate personal images without consent.

Yes sexting has it’s risks, but so does anything fun, such as sky diving or trying something new! Serious privacy violation shouldn’t be one of the risks of sexting, especially when we have the capability to install technology to prevent it.

 

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Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding period sex that I‘m ready to bust.

Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing people’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation.

Seriously, it’s time to open up to the possibility that there’s SO much more to period sex than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. Time to get over your period phobia.

So, if this sounds like you, and you’re one of those who feels a little ‘icked’ out at the thought of it (or you have a lover who is), here’s a few reasons as to why it’s time to change your tone and embrace magical period sex once and for all.

Embrace the fact that periods are a very normal, natural and beautiful part of life

Menstruation is a right of passage … it’s a beautiful sacred time of each month.

Bleeding on a monthly basis means that our bodies are healthy and cleansing … bleeding is so normal, natural and pure.

If you’re ready to honour love in their entirety, you must honour every little piece of them, even if that includes blood.

Think of period sex as an opportunity to think outside the box sexually.

The options are endless when it comes to fu*cking your lover when they bleeding.

If you’re not ready for traditional penetrative sex, here’s some alternatives to consider:

  • Kissing for hours on end. Yes, JUST kissing can lead to orgasm and deep pleasure.
  • Energetically fucking with tantric breathing and eye gazing … welcome to the world of energetic orgasm … mind blowing
  • Cunnilingus (get over your fear and go down below with a tampon in … because the tampon contains all the blood the pussy will be super clean and it’s a extremely intimate form of oral sex)
  • A bit of fellatio (no explanation necessary, right? Worship your both cock and pussy)
  • Anal play (leading into anal sex if you’re both keen to go there … because let’s face it, anal sex is the perfect alternative if that’s your thing)
  • Mutual masturbation – both self pleasuring next to each other, or watching each other from across the room (this is a personal favourite)

Get dirty and just get to it, you have nothing to lose

If you’re ready to dive in deep and embrace traditional penetrative period sex in it’s entirety, here’s a few simple ways you can make it an enjoyable experience:

  • Jump in the shower. F*ck in the shower and the water will naturally wash away the blood.
  • Use towels – place a couple of towels on the bed (or wherever you choose to have sex) and minimise post-sex clean up
  • Embrace the blood. Yep, that’s right, the reality is you are going to SEE blood, embrace it, it’s ok and it’s natural.

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Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Vavven Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Cock ring safety is rarely spoken about, let alone relayed by manufacturers or retailers. So we’re here to chat penis ring safety!

The Penis

The penis is a complex bit of gear, but basically it’s a pump system. Your heart and arteries are the pump, pushing blood into and around the penis. An erection is created when a rather tricky biochemical process shuts valve like items in the penis, enabling more blood to enter than leave and in turn building pressure.

The pressure from a penis ring creates an artificial one way valve, reducing or preventing blood flowing out of the penis. But this artificial blood restriction can cause damage, the tissue of the penis and testicles need fresh blood flow to stay alive. See recommended use time limits below.

Holding an erection is not the only reason a penis ring is used. The reasons vary from erection assistance to feeling good, or just an attempt to make your junk look a little larger. Whatever the reason education is very important. Penis rings have been in use for a very long time and for short term use are normally quite OK. A 2009 sex toy safety paper found penis rings accounted for just 1.9% of the sex toy related emergency treatment.

The main issues with penis rings are related to:

If you ever find yourself in a situation where your penis ring is stuck, hightail it to emergency to seek medical help immediately. That is one friend you want to look after.

Here are a few tips to help you out:

#1 Seek Medical Advice Pre-use

Penis rings must NOT be used without medical advice by those who have cardiovascular problems or who take blood-thinning medication.

Always check in with your doctor and ask for their advice on safe use and any medical conditions you may have which could cause an issue. If you’re using a penis ring to assist with erections be sure to discuss this with your doctor, they may actually be able to help you in many other ways. And if you’re just experimenting to spice up your play, just be open with your doctor they have knowledge to share.

#2 Duration Of Use

Medical professionals advise against using a penis ring for more than 30 minutes.

Ensure

  • you are not using drugs which affect your attention or awareness;
  • you remove the penis ring prior to sleeping; and
  • you remove the penis ring immediately if you notice any pain, numbness, or if the flesh goes pale or blue.

We recommend

  • NOT using a penis ring with numbing creams, as this will reduce your awareness of your penis while wearing the penis ring; and
  • avoiding metal penis rings, as removal can be very difficult in an emergency situation. Look for a penis ring which can be cut or easily undone.

#3 Weight Damage

We recommend avoiding heavy weighted penis rings as the pulling can damage the structure at the base of the penis, which can lead to nerve damage and irritation of groin hernias.

#4 Be Prepared

Knowing who you can contact in an emergency or having something close by to cut the penis ring if needed, is so much easier to think about when all the blood is in the thinking head!

Note: If you do attempt to cut your own penis ring, ensure your penis is protected.

#5 Have Fun

We know all those rules probably scared the shit out of you, but education will keep you safe in bed. Don’t stress about the rules, just follow them and enjoy.

This youtube clip by Dr Ruthie will take 10 minutes of your life, but well worth it. She covers materials, sizing, installation and safety.

How to Wear a Cock Ring | Dr. Ruthie’s Sex Info

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How to Improve Your Sex Life

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Vavven How To Improve Your Sex Life

Five simple tips to help you learn how to improve your sex life, whether you’re in a long term relationship or just ships passing in the night. These tips don’t require learning yoni massage or how to striptease, they’re simply based around understanding sex is a mutual experience, it’s the connection of your hearts, your souls, and your complete beings.

1/ Don’t Rush

Don’t rush the experience. We’re not talking physical speed, you can go fast or slow, whatever rocks your boat. We’re talking mental speed, the experience, keeping your mind in the moment. Don’t think about how you look, smell, taste, how you could improve, or what your partner may or may not be thinking. Just relax into the moment. Feel the stimulation of your skin, hear the breathing of your partner, taste the moment when hearts, minds and bodies come together.

2/ Have Fun

Have fun and break the rules (obviously not the one about consent), but throw convention out the window and try different things. You don’t need to be dramatic, just simply do something different to your “normal”. Maybe it’s uncomfortable passion on the kitchen table or sitting back and touching yourself while keeping your partner at bay. Just play. Some things will work and plenty will be just laughable, but the journey will be great!

3/ Lean to Tango

Not literally, but a tango requires two willing and eager participants to be beautiful. Great sex is a mutual give and take and there is no room for needy or pushy in the bedroom. Have mutual respect and let the music you create take you places you didn’t expect.

4/ Practice Kissing

Kiss for hours. Give yourselves time to explore, tease and connect. Too often when we are familiar with our lover we reach for the pants. Try slowing things down and kissing for foreplay. Maybe even take the sex off the table and try kissing to the point of wanting to break this new rule.Try playing with your kissing style, vary the pressure, even add a playful bite. Kissing is so intimate and stimulating, just enjoy it.

5/ Talk

We bang on about this point, but communication is the best friend you have for a great sex life. Talk while, before, and after sex even if it’s uncomfortable remember to talk. We understand it can be painfully difficult to open up, so be willing to be the first one to open up and help your partner feel comfortable. And if your partner is saying something awkwardly, listen to them and give them respect.

If you have tips you would like to share, leave them in the comments for others to read.

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Sex Toys for Christians

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Vavven™ | Sex Toys for Christians

What does sex toys for Christians mean? Christians are joined in faith, but the views of the individual faiths within Christianity vary as do the diverse opinions and beliefs of the individuals who uphold these faiths.

So when we discuss sex toys, or intimacy products as we like to call them, in a Christian context we are really looking at a few key universal values most Christians would relate to: love; intimacy; communication; and respect.

We believe love is a gift, a gift we can share or hold. When we talk love we mean, love for ourselves, love for our partner, and love for the world. Here at Vavven we deeply believe in love and the difference it can make in the world.

This is why we only source ethically manufactured products, this means no child labour, no poor safety conditions, and decent wages. This belief in love is why we campaign for Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights (SRHR) in the hope that one day things such as honour killings and child marriages across the world will be eradicated.

We believe it’s good to love others and love yourself, and that intimacy with your partner is a gift to be treasured and enhanced. This can only happen with communication and respect. Respect for yourself, your partner, and the intimacy and ability you already have to communicate.

There are very few relationships that stand the test of children and everyday life pressure without drifting apart or losing touch from time to time in some way. Vavven wants to help people draw closer together by enhancing their relationships, we want to help people rediscover themselves and their partner.

Intimacy products can help bring a new element of connection to your relationship, they help you communicate and they bring a lot of fun into your bedroom. Vavven has been curated to ensure people and their partners feel safe and comfortable browsing together in the privacy of their own home.

In short, we’re unable to answer the complex and emotional underlying question ‘is it alright for Christians to use sex toys?’ this is a question only you can answer.

However, Vavven is sure to be one of the most ethical suppliers you will find and your love for yourself will help many around the world.

 

We’re discreet

If you’re concerned about privacy –

  • our packaging is plain yet beautiful and completely discreet, not even the post-person will know what is being delivered
  • we also use Australia Post parcel drop points if you do not want items delivered to your house
  • we’re able to process transactions via direct transfer, money order, and cheque if you don’t want to use our paypal or credit card facilities (you will need to drop us a line for these payment methods as they are not offered at checkout)

 

We do not sell pornography

Vavven stands against objectification, we think of pleasure in terms of psychology, health and wellbeing, and that being a well-versed, conscious human puts you in control to be aware and shameless when it comes to your own unique sexuality. We provide the space and tools for this exploration, but pornography due to its prescriptive nature is not one of the tools in our tool belt. Having said this, we believe any act which rocks your world, is between consenting adults and not causing harm to others, is healthy. There is a chance some of our blogs may offend you, but just remember the word “inclusive” as this is a part of the Vavven moral code.

Good luck on your journey and we will be here if you ever decide to purchase.

Love the Vavven Team.

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Let’s Talk Butt Sex, Anal Sex is so Lowbrow

Vavven Anal Sex Butt Sex

Not all sphincters are created equal!

Anal sex is so last season, we prefer the more highbrow butt sex! Let’s get into it.

So you’re interested in exploring another of your erogenous zones, good for you!

The back door has a few extra special rules you must follow. So read to the very bottom of this blog and practice these basic steps: consent, health, communicate, lubricate, and a big dose of patience.

#1 Consent

#2 Health

  • Never, ever, ever, put anything inside your butt you cannot hold onto! We recommend always having a good sized flared base on the object to reduce the risk of it being sucked into the anus (Anal Suck). Your butt muscles are super strong, especially during orgasm, and lubricated fingers are super slippery.

If you do lose any object into your butt (or anyone else’s!) seek medical help immediately, that sucker is more than likely not coming back out on it’s own and can do serious damage.

  • If you are exploring with fingers ensure the fingernails are short and smooth, the anus is delicate.
  • If you have hemorrhoids do not engage in anal sex until you have discussed the risks with your doctor.
  • We strongly recommend not using any item designed to numb the anal area (cream, drug, lubricant etc.). Numbing the butt effectively dulls nerves and masks pain, without this pain sensation you and/or your partner(s) will not be aware of tearing and other harms being caused to the anus in question.
  • Anal sex shouldn’t be painful. If pain occurs, stop immediately. Do not continue if you have a tear or damage to the anus and seek medical advice.
  • Match your lubrication to your protection. Only water-based lubricants with latex condoms, never use petroleum or oil based lubricants (e.g. Vaseline, massage oil) as a chemical reaction occurs and weakens the strength of the condom which could cause it to break.
  • Wear protection, the penetration of any orifice; anal; vaginal; and oral, comes with a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI’s). So, we strongly recommend using condoms during anal sex (well all sex actually!).

Warning if you have a latex allergy we do stock a number of latex free products. Vavven’s Latex Free Barrier Protection.

  • Never change from anal penetration to vaginal penetration without changing condom or washing the penetrating object totally.
  • If you’re using fingers ensure you wash your hands very well prior and after anal play.
  • If you choose to douche (cleaning faecal matter from the anal area) be mindful of how much you do this, as over douching can have health implications. Douching is a personal preference, but we do not sell douching kits because we all know, milk, milk, lemonade, around the corner…
  • And with this in mind the area has a unique fragrance which will over time impregnate your intimacy toys, so we recommend always using them with a condom to reduce the lingering aroma.

#3 Communicate

Communication is exceptionally important in all stages of anal sex.

  • Prior to butt sex, talk to your partner to ensure you’re both signed up for the same activity.
  • During anal sex, ensure the person being penetrated is the one in control. Consider your position to ensure this control. Talk to each other about the force, speed, and depth of penetration.

 

#4 Lubricate

Your butt is not self-lubricating and actually absorbs moisture, so make sure you lubricate well and reapply regularly. Dry penetration can cause lesions in the fine skin tissue, if a lesion or tear occurs in the anal area seek medical advice immediately.

 

#5 Patience

It’s the journey, not the destination that matters!

  • Take your time, allow the person being penetrated to lead the charge.
  • Focus on enjoying each stage, not having a finish line.
  • This can time (sometimes many months) to work your way to the size of a penis or dildo being inserted into your anus
  • Starting with a well lubricated finger is a great way to explore the sensation and get the anus comfortable with something small. If you’re using intimate toys (see warning above), start small and work your way up when and if you desire.

Lacy Greens Butt Sex – Can not see? Change your youtube settings to 18+. Trust us, all will be fine.

Best of luck with your butt.

“Anal sex is like brussel sprouts, an acquired taste” Cyndi Darnell

Sex Toy Safety | 7 Easy Ways To Protect Yourself

Sex Toy Safety

A number of us have a background  in highly regulated and safety orientated industries. So when we were researching the risks within the sex industry for our social enterprise ‘Vavven’…

Well we were nothing short of horrified with what we found!


We’d expected items purchased for your favourite orifices would be safe for their intended purpose. We expected manufacturing standards and regulations would ensure consumer safety just as they do in so many other industries. But sadly this is not the case.

This blog contains the simple knowledge to prevent your parent, or child, or friend experiencing a world of embarrassment and pain.

Sex Industry Regulation

Lack of regulation for this industry means manufacturers of sex toys are relatively free to manufacture their products as they wish, in any form and almost any material they desire, even though they understanding you’re going to place these items in your most sensitive and porous areas.

The sex industry has also failed in this area. Retailers have every opportunity to provide you with the simple knowledge needed to protect yourself, but many of them either pay no attention at all, or they give toxic material and cleaning knowledge only.

People of all ages and all walks of life end up in hospital from serious mishaps while trying to gain sexual pleasure using either sex toys or common household products.

Sex Toy Safety 7 Easy Tips

We will share more information over time, but a great way to help with your safety is to follow these 7 easy tips:

1/ Don’t Place Anything In Your Anus That Doesn’t Have A Flared Base

We cannot stress this point enough!

Of the sex toy related injuries presenting at hospital, it is estimated over 80% are to remove items lost in the anus.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]

Your anus does not self-lubricate, it has two sphincters (one external and one internal), and it also has very strong muscles.

After the second anal sphincter there’s a kink in the bowel, and if your probe turns this corner (which it can do during anal suck or being pushed to far) it can begin to migrate north.

And no it’s unlikely it will come out.

In very basic terms, the bowel muscle normally contracts behind your bodily waste to remove it, but it can also push items the other way back into the body.

Anal suck is the contraction of those very big muscles during an orgasm.

Put slippery fingers from lubricant in the mix and it will make gripping your probe very difficult.

A flared base will not prevent this mishap (if you’re stupid enough to push it too far), but it does provide a proximity reminder and a gripping point for either you or the super lucky emergency doctor on the extraction mission.

Considering a mishap can still happen

  1. Reduce the likelihood by always controlling your own anal toy during joint play &
  2. Think about your product before play, that is, stay away from products with sharp edges that could cut the delicate internal body tissue, such as jewel studded butt plug, or plugs with sharp points or raised seams. Keep in mind the amazing medical people can not x-ray your lost item unless it is metal.

If you lose anything up your anal cavity forget your dignity and hightail it to emergency, because that sucker ain’t coming back out and can do extremely serious damage!!!

2/ Talk With Professionals

Before deciding to experiment with sex toys chat with your doctor.

Yes potentially embarrassing but you’ll get over it, there’s nothing your GP hasn’t seen or heard before. They’re a wealth of information (yep all that study is for a reason), they can make sure you’re in good health and that you’re not treating a symptom of a much larger problem.

The other important professional in your sex life is a great Sex Educator.

They can assist with pleasure as a complete package, mind and body. We recommend Cyndi Darnell as an educator, she was one of the experts we selected to participate in Vavven’s product risk assessment panel and she runs sessions via Skype so geography isn’t an issue.

Sex toy retailers are experts in retailing not sexual advice.

Yes many can educate you on sex, but your own doctor combined with an expert sex educator will help you really uncover what your issues are and provide you with a much healthier sexual outcome.

3/ Purchase Body Friendly Materials

Body safe materials are very important, not only are your pleasure zones often porous they are also sensitive.

This means a sex toy and lubricants made from a toxic materials can by absorbed into your body easily and irritate or burn your skin.

Finding non-toxic materials isn’t easy due the lack of regulations, but as a guide look for reputable manufacturers and only purchase products which are bodysafe, food grade, or medical grade: silicone; glass; metal; wood; ABS plastic; or ceramic.

Stay away from porous materials, materials that either absorb fluid or trap it on its surface. Porous materials not only capture micro yucks they’re really hard to clean, meaning the micro yucks can cause infection or worse.

Sex toy bloggers such as Princess Previews or Miss Ruby Reviews are a great place to investigate toys, as they both give honest sex toy reviews and only deal in non porous sex toys made with non-toxic materials.

4/ Use The Sex Toy Safely

Each sex toy is designed for a different use and can be dangerous if misused.

For example lubricate is designed to assist with reducing friction during sexual pleasure, but if used in the shower or the bath could cause a bone breaking slippery floor.

Vibrators & Dildos

A vibrator has an oscillating motor with an offset weight which causes it to vibrate. A dildo does not have a motor, it does not move under its own steam.

Vibes are great for external vibration or internal vaginal play, but both vibrators and dildos can be quite dangerous if used for anal play if they do not have a flared base (see #1).

It’s also important that you mix up your clitoral simulation methods from time to time, change the vibration frequency and speed as well as trying stimulation other than vibration. Play with temperature, air or water flow. Using a water proof vibrator in the bath can help with this by holding it close to the zone, but not touching.

Penis Rings

Penis rings are a little tricky, see penis ring safety, but the main thing to watch out for is ensuring you purchase a material that you can easily cut from your penis if needed, and you check in with your doctor pre-use.

Butt Plugs

See anal play safety, but the main things to watch out for are #1 the flared base rule and #2 medical check.

Sounding Equipment

This is a long probe which is inserted into the eye of the penis.

We do not stock this item, but we’d like to stress

  1. see your doctor first there are many things which can go wrong with this practice &
  2. be aware of the material being used, that is, the common household pencil is NOT a good idea. It may leave internal splinters which can only be removed in hospital if at all.

Pre-use Check

No matter what type of toy you are using always inspect it prior to use.

  • run your hands over it thoroughly for sharp edges (the skin on your junk is very soft and easy to tear)
  • visually check for pinch points and surface cracks
  • visually inspect the batteries and housing for corrosion or any change; or check the charging cable and charging point for damage or exposed wiring
  • if you find any of these things, it’s time to bin your toy.

Vavven Safety Information

With each of our sex toys we send you detailed do’s and do not’s.

5/ Clean Your Fun Toys

Always clean your sex toys before and after use, and as a general rule clean between each new cavity.

Check out How To Clean Sex Toys.

6/ Buy From A Reputable Retailer

Buy from a reputable retailer, an organisation who knows how to impose their own regulations to improve your safety.

There are a few great retailers out there when it comes to checking items for toxic materials such as Smitten Kitten, but the pickings are very slim if you’re also looking for electrical and functional safety.
In Australia, sex toys are adequately covered for electrical safety under Australian regulations, but good luck finding an Australian importer let alone a retailer who understands the legal responsibility here.

7/ Don’t Get Suckered By Internet Bollocks

  • Price will not determine your toy safety. We’ve have found safe and unsafe toys in all price ranges.
  • Materials ain’t materials. It would be the easy road to take a blanket assumption all toys made from a certain material are either toxic or non toxic, but the fact is materials are tricky and much rests on additives and manufacturing methods which you may not be aware of.
  • Smell isn’t a good indicator of toxicity many toxins are odourless.
  • The home flame test to prove if a sex toy is manufactured from “real silicone”. This is one of the most amusing things we’ve read so far in this industry. It‘s a great indicator of the lack of material and chemical property understanding of those involved, but a very poor indicator of the material. Silicone will melt at plus 300C and the hottest part of a pocket lighter can reach nearly 2,000C, even a slight wobble with flame placement will subject the silicone to temperatures far above its limits.

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When’s my partner ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven sexual experimentation

Whether you want to explore a fantasy or introduce sex toys, sexual experimentation in relationships is normal and healthy. But that doesn’t mean all your desires will align to that of your partners. So it’s always best to check in with your partner(s) before throwing down something a little out of your ordinary sexual ritual.

Our tips to checking in with your partner exploring likes and dislikes are:

#1 Talk

The best way to determine whether your partner is also ready to experiment is to sit down and have an honest discussion with them. Try doing this at neutral time. The heat of the moment can tend to complicate things, try sitting down during a calm moment together.

Have a talk about what some of your limits may be, both as partners and as individuals. Talk about how you might communicate when either of you feel like things have gone too far or you are uncomfortable.

Ensure that you both feel safe to say no at any time to each other.

#2 Consent

When your sexual activity involves others, it is vital you and all participants are consenting adults who are emotionally ready. Don’t follow a crowd, set your own limits. If it feels wrong for you or if you change your mind, speak up and say no. Your body, your rules. If you don’t want be a part of something, you are perfectly within your rights to remove yourself.

Consenting means person(s) of full mental faculties, engaging in the full act of their own free will, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion. See our consent blog for more info on this Consent Click Here.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

#2 Enjoy The Ride

But most of all- enjoy exploring your sexuality alone or with a partner. Be playful and curious, unashamed and adventurous. Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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When am I ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven™ | Love yourself Sexual Experimentation

Only you will ever know the answer to this question. The best advice we can give you is to ensure you love yourself before you decide to love and pleasure others. If you are unable to sit with your special other(s) and have honest discussions on what makes you feel both uncomfortable and aroused, a discussion around sexual experimentation, then perhaps you’re not ready.

If you are exploring on your own, listen to your own instincts. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, then perhaps this is not the right time.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Be playful and curious, enjoy exploring your sexuality, and don’t rush the adventure. It’s like they say, it’s all about the journey.

Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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What does consent really mean?

Vavven Consent

We think the British Police have nailed the topic of sexual consent, so rather than listen to us, take 3 mins to watch (and share) this clip, or keep reading.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics – Personal Safety Survey 2012, 19.4% of women and 4.5% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15. It’s important you understand sexual consent, what it means and what it looks like.

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

  • Consent can only be gained from a person of full mental faculties, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion i.e. involved by their own freewill.
  • Consent at the beginning of an act does not mean someone cannot change their mind or lose control. If this happens you no longer have consent and you should stop and ensure the person is safe.
  • Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged. Look for signs of enthusiastic consent such as verbal invitation, pulling you closer to them, asking for things, telling you what feels good.
  • Again, someone who may have enthusiastically consented at the start of play can also change their mind mid-act.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

How Do I Ask For Consent?

Communication, communication, communication! Before, during and after. Create a safe and loving space. Even if you are ships passing in the night you can still be loving, respectful and care for the person you are with at the time.

Before

Just ask!

  • “I just want to make sure we are both into the same thing, would you like to … ? I’m also cool not doing anything”
  • “What would you like to do?”

This is also a great time to let your partner know your own limits.

During

Pillow talk is very sexy, use it to check on your partners willingness to remain involved.

  • “What feels good for you?”
  • “Do you like it when I …?”
  • “Tell me what you would like”
  • “Are you OK?”

After

  • “Thank you”
  • “What would make it better for you?”
  • “Are you OK?”

Laughing – Project Consent

If My Partner Said OK, Are There Cues They Didn’t Mean It?

Yes! You can be sure your partner is not feeling right about sex if they are doing any of the following

  • Not responding to your touch
  • Pushing you away
  • Holding their arms tightly around their own body
  • Turning away from you or hiding their face
  • Stiffening muscles

These are all good reasons to stop.

What If I Started It All And Now I’m Not Sure?

That is OK, you may have thought you were ready and you’re not, or you may not like something that is happening. Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged.

If you do not want what is happening, respect yourself and say so.

This could be “please stop, I’ve changed my mind” or “I need to go to the toilet” or “Can we talk?”

Take the time to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling, give them the same respect you would want in the situation.

I’ve Been Led On

If you believe you are entitled to an act because you feel you were led on, or you are frustrated, or any other reason, well this behaviour is rapey and so not cool.

The best way to help yourself in this situation is ensure the other person is safe, find yourself a private place, and beat off! We’ve got lots of products to help with that part!

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