Pelvic Floor & Kids – Learn the 3 Things You Need to Know

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Pelvic Floor & Kids Sexual Health | Vavven™

Why’s Pelvic Floor Health Important?

If you’re a dad, mum, carer… then you need to have the ‘Pelvic Health’ conversations (note the plural) with your kids.

Early healthy conversations teach good lifelong habits and remove the shame associated with the pelvic region. This shame is created by us not talking openly in society about sexual health, of which pelvic health is a large component.

If you’re thinking these conversations may be too awkward to bring up with your kids, then you need to challenge yourself. Would you neglect teaching your kids to brush their teeth or to practice sun safety? I’m guessing the answer was no, so why should this area be any different. It’s not actually, pelvic health is simply no less important to your child’s lifelong health, wellbeing and happiness.

The aim of the pelvic health conversation is awareness

Awareness of what the pelvic floor does, when it’s working, and what their normal looks like. To know their own body means they will know change.

But before you have this conversation with your child, have it with your doctor. They will have insight into your child as an individual and give you age appropriate information on pelvic floor exercise, such as, what age to start, frequency and duration. Your doctor may even recommend not doing them as they may actually be too tight to start with. Some signs of this are pelvic pain, constipation, and difficulty starting urination.

What does the Pelvic Floor do?

Pelvic health is required to: control our bladder and bowel; support our internal organs; stabilise and support our spine; provide healthy erectile function and ejaculation; support our uterus during and after child birth to help prevent the uterus descending into the vagina; and enhance all genders sexual pleasure.

It is estimated up to 13% of men and 37% of women suffer urinary incontinence; 20% of men and 12.9% of women suffer faecal incontinence; half of us post child birth have pelvic organ prolapse, many occurring close to child birth but are more likely to occur near menopause, and one-fifth of which require medical attention; and we haven’t even touched the sexual wellbeing numbers.

The pelvic floor is the muscle set that holds all of your insides in, and provides functional control of our bladder, bowel, and uterus. It’s a very complex little set up with muscles darting all over the place and a few openings for the urethra, uterus and anus to pass through. The pelvic floor muscles wrap firmly around these openings to help keep the passages shut. It’s also of interest to know that the urethra and the anus each have a second sphincter to help with this function.

Pelvic Floor

The pelvic floor muscles can weaken for a number of reasons: surgery; constipation; heavy lifting; bladder and bowel problems; pregnancy; age; high impact exercise; and obesity, to name a few. And just as impacting but a much rarer occurrence is pelvic floor muscles that are too tight. The failing of the muscles to relax can prevent the bowel and bladder fully emptying, as well as causing difficulty with penetrative intercourse.

If you have an issue with your pelvic floor chat with your doctor, don’t self-diagnose, they did that university degree for a reason. If you’re in Australia follow this link to find your closest pelvic floor physiotherapist.

The best advice available for maintaining pelvic health is to:

  1. Exercise the pelvic muscles regularly from an early age (this may be as simple as walking see below);
  2. Have good health habits to try and prevent constipation, but also good toilet habits  to manage it when it occurs; and
  3. Discuss your pelvic health with a medical professional.

For our kids to be able to follow these three steps, then we need to talk with them about pelvic health just as we would about healthy eating. These conversations will teach them the basics at an early age and set them up for shame free pelvic health. Pelvic health is a practice to start young to create a healthy habit and reduce the likelihood of suffering sexual or functional issues.

But How Do You Teach Your Kids Pelvic Floor Exercises?

First of all remember the aim is body awareness, knowing where the pelvic floor is, how to operate it, and what their body normal is. Understanding their own body means they will notice changes with age.

With regard to kids resources, there isn’t that much out there unfortunately and what is out there is very gendered. This book may be helpful if your conversation is with someone who just lovvvvess pink and frills, but don’t let a lack of targeted resource slow you down.

We didn’t need a book or a video to show our kids how to brush their teeth, we just taught them from our own experience. So there is no reason why we can not teach them what and where their pelvic floor is, how to activate it, and how to relax it, after we’ve taught ourselves and sort medical guidance on recommended start age and frequency.

These two videos teach the same information in a simplistic way, but approach the lesson with different styles, so just see through the gendering, aging, and the prostate cancer references.

Two very important areas which are not discussed in the videos are:

  1. Normal daily activity: Standing and walking with good posture will work the pelvic floor. So an active healthy kid doesn’t need to go crazy with doing these exercises, they just need to be aware of their body and how it works, what can affect it, and to notice change and seek help if needed.
  2. Relaxing: After you tighten a muscle, let it go completely, let it relax. Learning deep breathing to relax the diaphragm will also relax the pelvic floor, as they are part of the same system. Deep breathing will also calm the nervous system and that’s a nice state in our modern active lives.  

So go to town. This a great skill for all you adults as well!

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A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

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Parabens In Personal Lubricants

Parabens In Personal Lubricants | Vavven™

There is a lot of discussion about personal lubricants that contain parabens, a synthetic preservative, and if they are good for you.

Well we don’t agree with their use, but we cannot tell you conclusively that they’re bad for your health, all we can do is give you the existing science and let you make up your own mind.

Parabens are synthetic preservatives that your skin can absorbed. There is a whole family of parbens and they’re made by reacting an alcohol with p-hydroxybenzoic acid (the change in alcohol provides the varieties).

A review of research on Parabens between 2004 – 2008 by Darbre & Harvey found:

  • Intact parabens were present in human urine, meaning our bodies are not breaking down the chemicals
  • Parabens can be absorbed through our skin
  • Parabens were repeatedly shown to have estrogen disruption (ED) impacts
  • Parabens were genotoxic, meaning they can damage the genetic information in cells causing mutations

In 2013 the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health published a paper noting “EDs may be blamed for the rising incidence of human reproductive disorders. This constitutes a serious public health issue that should not be overlooked. Therefore, precautionary avoidance of exposure to EDs is a prudent attitude in order to protect humans and wildlife from permanent harmful effects on fertility.”

And a 2002 study exposing rats to currently acceptable levels of polyparabens resulted in reduced sperm production.

Where Are Parabens Found?

They’ve been used since the 1950s as a preservative (preventing bacteria growth). And they’re the most widely used cosmetic preservative. Parabens are also often used in pharmaceuticals and food. Yes your food!

Parabens health risks are certainly contested, but there’s good reason to believe this family could affect the natural hormone system (endocrine) of our bodies. And considering the paraben family is in so many of our daily products the real concern we see is the cumulative exposure.

Personal lubricants are placed in areas that allow for greater absorption, and they are used frequently. There are so many paraben free lubes on the market there is really no reason not to find an alternative.

How To Reduce Your Paraben Exposure?

This ingredient is everywhere, personal lubricants and other body care products, pharmaceuticals, cosmetics, even a host of food. So read the label and put down anything that contains something ending in ‘parabens’, it’s a big family.

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Lubricant Osmolality And Why It’s Important

Lubricant Osmolality And Why It Is Important | Vavven™

Osmolality. What Is It?

For our needs osmolality is simply the concentration of a water-based lubricant.

If you want to get slightly more technical – Osmolality is a measure of the concentration of dissolved particles per unit of water in a water based liquid and it’s measured in milliosmoles per kilogram (mOsm/kg).

Why Is Personal Lubricant Osmolality Important?

The osmolality of your water based lubricant is of interest because of where you place it, your vulva, anus, or penile urethra (your pee hole).

The outer layer of skin in these areas is made of cells that let water flow freely in and out of them as needed (non-keratinized for the sex nerds).

The cells do this trying to maintain equilibrium between themselves and whatever water based liquid is touching them.

So if the osmolality of your body area cells is different to the osmolality of the water based lubricant molecules, then your body cells will adjust by either absorbing water or releasing it.

What Does A Change In Cell Water Level Do?

If your body cells absorb enough water while trying to equalise, they can burst and die. This can happen if your lubricant is very hypo-osmotic, this is an uncommon product.

And if the body cells release enough water while trying to equalise, they can dehydrate and die. This can happen if your lubricant is very hyper-osmotic, and the majority of lubes on the market are hyper-osmotic!

How Do Damaged Cells In At My Anus, Vulva, or Penis Affect Me?

Dead and damaged cells in these tender body areas are an issue because

  1. the function of these cells is to help prevent dirt and bacteria from entering into your body and
  2. the area can become irritated and more susceptible to infection “for example by HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)” World Health Organisation.

“for example by HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)”

World Health Organisation.

Most commercial personal lubricants have high osmolalities (2000–6000 mOsm/kg). The normal osmolality of vaginal secretions is 260–290 mOsm/kg and in semen it is 250–380 mOsm/kg.

The World Health Organisation recommends their procurement agencies “should source lubricants with osmolalities of not greater than 1200 mOsm/kg.”

The big issue is checking your lubricant osmolality, because it is not on the label!

How Do You Buy Intimate Lubricant With The Correct Osmolality Range If It’s Not On The Bottle?

Speaking openly about sexual and reproductive health and rights (SRHR), means chatting about your bedroom and your lubricant osmolality and more research is needed in this field to keep us all safe.

To find a great lubricant, look for a supplier who carries educational information and only stocks body safe lubricants. Take Vavven™, for instance. A social enterprise that sells body safe adult toys to help promote SRHR in local communities and around the world, Vavven™ carries a broad spectrum of ethically produced products including lubricants which have had their osmolality range checked. They also continue to work with industry bodies and highlight issues to regulators.

Below is a list of osmolality for common lubricants.

Use and procurement of additional lubricants for male and female condoms: WHO/UNFPA/FHI360

The WHO recommend osmolality is less than 1200 mOsm/kg.

 The Ideal pH for the vulva is 4.5 & the ideal pH for the anus is 5.5-5.7

A Little Help Is Needed?

Lubricants certainly have a pleasure aspect due to the sensation, but there’s a much larger health aspect. Changes in moisture affect all vulva owners at any age, and the anus is not self-lubricating so lubricant is essential.

No matter who you are and how long you’ve been around, a drop or two of lubricant will bring a smile to all involved. Our personal lubricant range is body safe and fun, so give it a splash.

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Tenga’s Sex Toy Demo – Iroha Tori, Flip 0 (Flip Zero), & Tenga Egg

TENGA demonstrate how to use their ‘female pleasure product’, or external vibrator as we like to say, Iroha Tori. TENGA also demonstrate two of their penis masturbators – Flip 0 (Flip Zero), & the very popular Tenga Egg.

Jerry and Jak also discuss why TENGA designed a male masturbator disguised as an egg. A small glimpse into the unknown impact society has on sex toy design. Sex and Society.

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Transcript

Iroha Tori

Jak: Now we’re here with Jerry from tenga and he has some pretty fantastic products to show us. So what have you got in your hands?

Jerry: Hello my name is Jerry, I have Iroha Tori in my hand. This is a female pleasure item. So we wanted something made quite cute and so squishy.

Jak: Oh OK, it’s really squishy like really squishy.

Jerry: Yes it is.

Jak: Yes I would not have thought it was, I would not have thought it was this texture from any of the pictures.

Jerry: Yes, and also the vibrator is very strong please feel it.

Jak: Yes it is. And very pinpointed, the vibration moves through the silicon really well. Any other interesting products?

Flip 0 (Flip Zero)

Jerry: Yes we do have a new product. It’s called Flip 0 (Zero). Flip Zero is for a penis. It’s a new high-end product. As you could see the very soft-silicone. Please touch it.

Jak: Yer it sort of almost feels like one of those toys when your kids you throw it against the wall, and it sticks and climbs down.

Jerry: Basically it’s made by TPE, so it’s very easy to use. Put some lubricant on it, and fold it put this in, and put this in. Put it onto your penis and squish it like this.

Jak: So that sort of squeezes. You can place pressure on the outside of it. Does it make a suction noise, like a cow pulling its foot out of mud?

Jerry: A little bit.

Jak: A little bit, not too much but a little bit.

TENGA Egg

Jak: These are a great tanga product.

Jerry: Cute TENGA Egg like this. Look at this it stretches a lot. And please see the inside texture it’s very cool. Basically it’s going to be the same texture as the outside picture, gotta be the same.

Jak: And what do you do with this?

Jerry: So, as you can see, it’s going to come with the one time lubricant on it. So you open it up, put some lube on it. And put it onto your penis.

Jak: So, ar penis?

Jerry: Yes penis.

Jak: OK and so what, it stretches right over it?

Jerry: Yes.

Jak: OK, very interesting.

Jak: So why is it disguised as an egg Jerry?

Jerry: Well because we wanted something cute and easy to carry in. Basically like we wanted something kind of cool, in use to be Japan, like these kind of sex toys were like always kind of gross. And kind of hard to carry and everyone’s kind of ashamed to carry it.

Jak: This is in Japan?

Jerry: Yes in Japan.

Jerry: We wanted something cool and easy to carry. And like, so like everybody could like talk about masturbation open. So we made these kind of cool products.

TENGA Masturbate Better

Jak: You have an interesting tagline at TENGA, so would you like to end it with your tagline?

Jerry: Ar should I say it?

Jak: Yer you can say it.

Jerry: TENGA has a very nice product, so everyone please try TENGA.

Jak: Yes thank you.

Jak: Isn’t your tagline ‘making masturbation better’?

Jerry: Yes.

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Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Vavven Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Cock ring safety is rarely spoken about, let alone relayed by manufacturers or retailers. So we’re here to chat penis ring safety!

The Penis

The penis is a complex bit of gear, but basically it’s a pump system. Your heart and arteries are the pump, pushing blood into and around the penis. An erection is created when a rather tricky biochemical process shuts valve like items in the penis, enabling more blood to enter than leave and in turn building pressure.

The pressure from a penis ring creates an artificial one way valve, reducing or preventing blood flowing out of the penis. But this artificial blood restriction can cause damage, the tissue of the penis and testicles need fresh blood flow to stay alive. See recommended use time limits below.

Holding an erection is not the only reason a penis ring is used. The reasons vary from erection assistance to feeling good, or just an attempt to make your junk look a little larger. Whatever the reason education is very important. Penis rings have been in use for a very long time and for short term use are normally quite OK. A 2009 sex toy safety paper found penis rings accounted for just 1.9% of the sex toy related emergency treatment.

The main issues with penis rings are related to:

If you ever find yourself in a situation where your penis ring is stuck, hightail it to emergency to seek medical help immediately. That is one friend you want to look after.

Here are a few tips to help you out:

#1 Seek Medical Advice Pre-use

Penis rings must NOT be used without medical advice by those who have cardiovascular problems or who take blood-thinning medication.

Always check in with your doctor and ask for their advice on safe use and any medical conditions you may have which could cause an issue. If you’re using a penis ring to assist with erections be sure to discuss this with your doctor, they may actually be able to help you in many other ways. And if you’re just experimenting to spice up your play, just be open with your doctor they have knowledge to share.

#2 Duration Of Use

Medical professionals advise against using a penis ring for more than 30 minutes.

Ensure

  • you are not using drugs which affect your attention or awareness;
  • you remove the penis ring prior to sleeping; and
  • you remove the penis ring immediately if you notice any pain, numbness, or if the flesh goes pale or blue.

We recommend

  • NOT using a penis ring with numbing creams, as this will reduce your awareness of your penis while wearing the penis ring; and
  • avoiding metal penis rings, as removal can be very difficult in an emergency situation. Look for a penis ring which can be cut or easily undone.

#3 Weight Damage

We recommend avoiding heavy weighted penis rings as the pulling can damage the structure at the base of the penis, which can lead to nerve damage and irritation of groin hernias.

#4 Be Prepared

Knowing who you can contact in an emergency or having something close by to cut the penis ring if needed, is so much easier to think about when all the blood is in the thinking head!

Note: If you do attempt to cut your own penis ring, ensure your penis is protected.

#5 Have Fun

We know all those rules probably scared the shit out of you, but education will keep you safe in bed. Don’t stress about the rules, just follow them and enjoy.

This youtube clip by Dr Ruthie will take 10 minutes of your life, but well worth it. She covers materials, sizing, installation and safety.

How to Wear a Cock Ring | Dr. Ruthie’s Sex Info

Happy loving peeps.

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Let’s Talk Butt Sex, Anal Sex is so Lowbrow

Vavven Anal Sex Butt Sex

Not all sphincters are created equal!

Anal sex is so last season, we prefer the more highbrow butt sex! Let’s get into it.

So you’re interested in exploring another of your erogenous zones, good for you!

The back door has a few extra special rules you must follow. So read to the very bottom of this blog and practice these basic steps: consent, health, communicate, lubricate, and a big dose of patience.

#1 Consent

#2 Health

  • Never, ever, ever, put anything inside your butt you cannot hold onto! We recommend always having a good sized flared base on the object to reduce the risk of it being sucked into the anus (Anal Suck). Your butt muscles are super strong, especially during orgasm, and lubricated fingers are super slippery.

If you do lose any object into your butt (or anyone else’s!) seek medical help immediately, that sucker is more than likely not coming back out on it’s own and can do serious damage.

  • If you are exploring with fingers ensure the fingernails are short and smooth, the anus is delicate.
  • If you have hemorrhoids do not engage in anal sex until you have discussed the risks with your doctor.
  • We strongly recommend not using any item designed to numb the anal area (cream, drug, lubricant etc.). Numbing the butt effectively dulls nerves and masks pain, without this pain sensation you and/or your partner(s) will not be aware of tearing and other harms being caused to the anus in question.
  • Anal sex shouldn’t be painful. If pain occurs, stop immediately. Do not continue if you have a tear or damage to the anus and seek medical advice.
  • Match your lubrication to your protection. Only water-based lubricants with latex condoms, never use petroleum or oil based lubricants (e.g. Vaseline, massage oil) as a chemical reaction occurs and weakens the strength of the condom which could cause it to break.
  • Wear protection, the penetration of any orifice; anal; vaginal; and oral, comes with a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI’s). So, we strongly recommend using condoms during anal sex (well all sex actually!).

Warning if you have a latex allergy we do stock a number of latex free products. Vavven’s Latex Free Barrier Protection.

  • Never change from anal penetration to vaginal penetration without changing condom or washing the penetrating object totally.
  • If you’re using fingers ensure you wash your hands very well prior and after anal play.
  • If you choose to douche (cleaning faecal matter from the anal area) be mindful of how much you do this, as over douching can have health implications. Douching is a personal preference, but we do not sell douching kits because we all know, milk, milk, lemonade, around the corner…
  • And with this in mind the area has a unique fragrance which will over time impregnate your intimacy toys, so we recommend always using them with a condom to reduce the lingering aroma.

#3 Communicate

Communication is exceptionally important in all stages of anal sex.

  • Prior to butt sex, talk to your partner to ensure you’re both signed up for the same activity.
  • During anal sex, ensure the person being penetrated is the one in control. Consider your position to ensure this control. Talk to each other about the force, speed, and depth of penetration.

 

#4 Lubricate

Your butt is not self-lubricating and actually absorbs moisture, so make sure you lubricate well and reapply regularly. Dry penetration can cause lesions in the fine skin tissue, if a lesion or tear occurs in the anal area seek medical advice immediately.

 

#5 Patience

It’s the journey, not the destination that matters!

  • Take your time, allow the person being penetrated to lead the charge.
  • Focus on enjoying each stage, not having a finish line.
  • This can time (sometimes many months) to work your way to the size of a penis or dildo being inserted into your anus
  • Starting with a well lubricated finger is a great way to explore the sensation and get the anus comfortable with something small. If you’re using intimate toys (see warning above), start small and work your way up when and if you desire.

Lacy Greens Butt Sex – Can not see? Change your youtube settings to 18+. Trust us, all will be fine.

Best of luck with your butt.

“Anal sex is like brussel sprouts, an acquired taste” Cyndi Darnell

A Guide To Worshipping The Penis

Vavven Worshipping The Penis Juliet Allen

Worshipping the penis…

There are some who view the penis as nothing more than a protruding long tool that is used with little sensitivity or thought … these people often feel resentment towards cock and can’t bare the thought of wrapping their mouth around it.

And then there are those who view the penis with adoration and love … who see it as a pure pleasure wand of light and sensuality, and invite it into their sacred space just as they would invite a God into their temple.

Are you ready to take your worship of cock to a whole new level? Are you ready to give your cock owner the love and adoration that they deserves? If you are, here’s a few ways you can embrace the beauty of your partner’s most prized possession:

Complement The Penis

Shower your partner with genuine, loving compliments about their penis. Tell them what you love about it … go out of your way to give them compliments.

Next time they are at work, send them a message telling them just one thing you love about their cock.

Next time you begin undressing them, touch their cock with love and stroke it whilst telling them how fu*cking hot their cock is.

Remember, be honest and sincere, only say things you truly mean and speak from your heart.

Receive it with love, whether that be in your pussy, mouth or ass

Adore it, touch it, caress it, lick it, kiss it, feel it in your mouth … worship their cock like a temple and, when you’re ready, receive it fully, allowing every inch to enter you with complete love and adoration.

Give your partner a lingam massage

Every penis loves having a good massaged.

Firstly, make sure your partner is comfortable and communicate to them that this is about their pleasure and that they have permission to just relax and enjoy.

Using organic coconut oil and warm hands, begin slowly with gently strokes and caresses.

Begin slowly, very slowly, make it last. Savour every single moment.

Don’t rush.

Stroke your partners perineum (the area between their balls and anus).

Ask what they enjoy.

Listen to their breathing and sounds.

Connect with your partners lingam with your heart.

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Sex Toys For Beginners: Your Vulva

Sex Toys For Beginners Your Vulva

A Guide to Sex Toys For Beginners: How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Your Vulva

Sex toys are all over the internet, literally at our fingertips if we want them … but how the hell do we pick the ‘right’ one out of the plethora of options online?

To help out I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you’re thinking of purchasing your very first sex toy, but don’t know where to start.

Let’s face it, there’s a toy for everything and everyone; vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, bullets, double enders … you name it, it’s out there.

You may find that you look at some products and wonder what the hell they are for?!

Don’t stress,

even I get confused with the look of some toys, and I’ve been a sexologist for years!

If it’s your first time and you feel overwhelmed, I recommend asking yourself some questions …

Do you want the toy just to stimulate your clit? Or do you want something to penetrate your vagina too?

If you just want clit stimulation, go with a small bullet.

If you want vaginal penetration, get a dildo or vibrator … if you want both at the same time (yes, you can have both at the same time!), then I recommend a ‘rabbit’ style vibrator.

Or, if you have a bullet and vibrator then don’t be afraid to use both simultaneously.

“Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!” Juliet Allen

Choosing the ‘right’ sex toy may mean that you go through a couple of toys until you find the right one for you (kinda like lovers).

When you receive your toy in the mail (don’t worry, all online companies make the packaging VERY discreet, so your flat mate won’t know what it is!) give it a good wash in warm soapy water before using it, and make sure you have a water based lubricant as well.

Explore your toy like you would explore a new lover!

Take your time and remember that self-pleasure is a healthy and fun part of life and that sex toys are the perfect accompaniment a self-pleasure session.

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3 Myths About Introducing Sex Toys That Need Busting

“Sex toys can literally change your sex life overnight” Juliet Allen

Sex toys can literally change your sex life overnight and introducing the right toy into an existing sexual relationship can be fun, exciting and hot!

Despite this, there’s plenty of silly myths about sex toys, so today I’m going to bust these myths and make room for more sex toy fun in your relationship.

Myth #1 Sex Toys Replace A Penis

This is a load of crap!

If your partner wants to introduce a sex toy into the bedroom, it’s not because the resident penis (if there is one) isn’t good enough.

Sex toys are for more than just vaginal penetration. You can use sex toys anally, vaginally, or use them to stimulate the clitoris or any of the other erogenous zones while simultaneously using a penis.

There are so many uses for sex toys and they’re definitely not there to replace a penis.

Penis owners may need to just get over any insecurity and be open to having another pleasurable addition in the bedroom.

Myth #2 Sex toys are there because sex isn’t good enough

Get over the false idea that the sex toy is there because your existing sex life isn’t good enough!

Sex toys add to sex and make it even more fun, exciting and stimulating.

Think of a sex toy as an add-on and enjoy how it can spice up an already amazing sex life.

Saying that, if your sex life is a little dull, introducing a sex toy can definitely ignite some hotness into your sex and make things more interesting and sexy!

Myth #3 If you need a vibrator to have an orgasm, there’s something wrong with you

This is a ridiculous myth that needs knocking on the head.

Many of us enjoy using a vibrator during sex because it helps with reaching climax

It’s ok to use and introduce a vibrator into the bedroom and if you or your partner(s) need it to reach orgasm, then there is NOTHING wrong with with any of you!

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