Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding period sex that I‘m ready to bust.

Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing people’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation.

Seriously, it’s time to open up to the possibility that there’s SO much more to period sex than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. Time to get over your period phobia.

So, if this sounds like you, and you’re one of those who feels a little ‘icked’ out at the thought of it (or you have a lover who is), here’s a few reasons as to why it’s time to change your tone and embrace magical period sex once and for all.

Embrace the fact that periods are a very normal, natural and beautiful part of life

Menstruation is a right of passage … it’s a beautiful sacred time of each month.

Bleeding on a monthly basis means that our bodies are healthy and cleansing … bleeding is so normal, natural and pure.

If you’re ready to honour love in their entirety, you must honour every little piece of them, even if that includes blood.

Think of period sex as an opportunity to think outside the box sexually.

The options are endless when it comes to fu*cking your lover when they bleeding.

If you’re not ready for traditional penetrative sex, here’s some alternatives to consider:

  • Kissing for hours on end. Yes, JUST kissing can lead to orgasm and deep pleasure.
  • Energetically fucking with tantric breathing and eye gazing … welcome to the world of energetic orgasm … mind blowing
  • Cunnilingus (get over your fear and go down below with a tampon in … because the tampon contains all the blood the pussy will be super clean and it’s a extremely intimate form of oral sex)
  • A bit of fellatio (no explanation necessary, right? Worship your both cock and pussy)
  • Anal play (leading into anal sex if you’re both keen to go there … because let’s face it, anal sex is the perfect alternative if that’s your thing)
  • Mutual masturbation – both self pleasuring next to each other, or watching each other from across the room (this is a personal favourite)

Get dirty and just get to it, you have nothing to lose

If you’re ready to dive in deep and embrace traditional penetrative period sex in it’s entirety, here’s a few simple ways you can make it an enjoyable experience:

  • Jump in the shower. F*ck in the shower and the water will naturally wash away the blood.
  • Use towels – place a couple of towels on the bed (or wherever you choose to have sex) and minimise post-sex clean up
  • Embrace the blood. Yep, that’s right, the reality is you are going to SEE blood, embrace it, it’s ok and it’s natural.

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Gender Neutral Sex Toys

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Gender Neutral Sex Toys

Why Gender Neutral Sex Toys Are Important To Care About?

Every person on this planet has different preferences when it comes to bedroom activities and that should be celebrated! Although there are some who have similar preferences, it’s important to recognise not everyone is the same. Some prefer watching a twink bareback someone, whereas someone else may prefer sex in a more traditional format, but each to their own! We don’t judge! Here at Vavven we think of pleasure in terms of psychology, health and wellbeing. We believe being a well-versed, conscious human puts you in control to be aware and shameless when it comes to your own unique sexuality.

We disagree with gendering sex toys for the following two reasons –

Person Identification

We believe it is important to be inclusive and gender neutral sex toys helps us honour this value. For example, not all penis owners would identify as being a man. We categorise our products by the erogenous zones they stimulate. We have even changed the name of some of the products we sell to ensure they are approachable to all.

&

Individual Exploration

We are not here to prescribe your sexuality, we believe it’s important you explore your own sexuality free from social constraints. Sex toys should be introduced for your pleasure, to enhance your feelings, find new ones, and improve your communication. We only have two rules

  1. Ensure all involved are consenting adults &
  2. Don’t ever place anything in your anus that doesn’t have a good sized flared base. Butt Sex Safety.

Our language impacts the way we think. It can enable and disable us. Small tweaks to our language usage can go a long way to respect all.

Read More About Our Values

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Drag Queen History

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Vavven Drag Queen History

Scroll down for the drag queen history video.

Disguising gender is nothing new in our society, it has been used in many forms but one of its earliest is as a plot device in ancient Romanian and Chinese theatres. Women generally were not allowed to perform on stage. It wasn’t until 1660 the first professional actress took the stage in England.

Cross-dressing is a socially constructed phenomenon, as there is nothing in nature which would define one group in pants in another in skirts. Interestingly enough, a woman was gaoled in Puerto Rico in 1919 for the crime of wearing trousers in public. Since this time our social standards have changed, women wear trousers and it’s no longer considered cross-dressing, and men are now allowed to show their nipples at the beach.

“You can create who you are, gender-bending is just the start. You dress to impress to express who you are. You are a superstar.”

Drag Queen History

Image: Matthew’s Island of Misfit Toys

According to Merriam Webster, the term “drag” in the context of clothing is “typical of one sex worn by a person of the opposite sex”. Drag can be practiced by people of all gender identities and sexual orientations. And the term ‘queen’ in the context of gender-bending is known to have been around since the 18th century. Originally as a derogatory term to describe a gay man, it has since flipped to be reclaimed as a positive.


The term “drag queens” has been around since the 1930-40’s, and is now commonly associate with an exaggerated performance of a feminine character who has very glamourous costume, hair and make-up. It’s important not to confuse drag queen with transvestism, which is were a man predominantly cross dress’ to feel like, not look like, a woman.

Although drag queen as a term is as late as the 1930’s-40’s, early forms of traditional drag were appearing in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s. In 1910 Julian Eltinge, a drag queen, had an American tour and produced a magazine. But as the video highlights this era was also a time when gender non conformist became circus performers in “freek shows” e.g. the bearded women.

Drag Queen History

Image: The Dumbells: WW1 Canadian entertainment troop c. 1917

Like so many minorities, history has not been kind. The 1950’s saw homosexuals as subversive and deemed a national risk. Another amazing insight into the intellect (or lack thereof) of our governments. Homosexuality was already illegal and men were jailed for cross-dressing. Many parts of the world banned cross-dressing, which saw private parties in individuals homes flourish and small pockets of activism grow.


The video looks at the 1969 Stonewall riots as a pivotal period in drag queen history. This riot highlights the drag queen influence in the gay rights movement, which is often referred to as beginning in 1969 at New York’s only gay bar of the time, Stonewall Bar. On the 28th of June 1969 the police conducted a raid, which went a little pear shaped as the community (gay and drag) fought back. The riots lasted for three days and it’s said it ignited worldwide LGBTI activism.

As a culture we have come a long way with our beliefs around cross-dressing, but we still have so far to go. A simple example is a woman jumping into a man’s shirt for bed is considered acceptable even attractive, while a man wearing a woman’s nightie to bed would not be deemed in the same way by most people.

But enough from me, the best history lesson here is a mix of a ludicrously catchy song, politics, and gorgeous fashion.

Take it away queens!

Imp Queen, The Vixen, Lucy Stoole, London Jade, Eva Young and Dorian Electra.

2000 Years of Drag: A Musical Odyssey | Refinery29

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Sex sells, right?

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Vavven Sex sells, right?

We like to say “sex sells, let it pay”, but you may have noticed that we’ve chosen not to actually use “sex”, or what society deems sex to be, in order to make our sales. Instead we’re engaging in a social experiment (yes, you are the mouse!) to reprogram society around sexual objectification.

We’re pushing back against the valueless sexual undertones of the marketing industry to prove that you don’t need objectification to talk about sex.

So when we heard about the team of researchers at the Ohio State University studying the effects of sex in advertising, we couldn’t resist having a peep!

They studied the results from approximately 8500 subjects. Researchers found subject’s reaction to a “sexy ad” involved their skin warming, heart rate increasing, but they were less likely to prefer the erotically advertised brands over brands using non-sexual images. The subjects also often found it difficult to remember the product being advertised in the sexualised advertisements.

 

New York Magazine – Sex Doesn’t Sell: “This Is Your Brain on Advertising”

They concluded that this is due to “attentional narrowing”, that is, our human attention span is limited and close focus on one thing will cause others to fade into the background. In the sexualised advertisement, the subject’s focus is on the model’s many assets rather than the product.

So peeps, watch this space! We’re very interested in the evolution of our social experiment into advertising.

 

We’re big believers “the sex can be dirty as long as the values are clean”.

Erkica Lust

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How to Improve Your Sex Life

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Vavven How To Improve Your Sex Life

Five simple tips to help you learn how to improve your sex life, whether you’re in a long term relationship or just ships passing in the night. These tips don’t require learning yoni massage or how to striptease, they’re simply based around understanding sex is a mutual experience, it’s the connection of your hearts, your souls, and your complete beings.

1/ Don’t Rush

Don’t rush the experience. We’re not talking physical speed, you can go fast or slow, whatever rocks your boat. We’re talking mental speed, the experience, keeping your mind in the moment. Don’t think about how you look, smell, taste, how you could improve, or what your partner may or may not be thinking. Just relax into the moment. Feel the stimulation of your skin, hear the breathing of your partner, taste the moment when hearts, minds and bodies come together.

2/ Have Fun

Have fun and break the rules (obviously not the one about consent), but throw convention out the window and try different things. You don’t need to be dramatic, just simply do something different to your “normal”. Maybe it’s uncomfortable passion on the kitchen table or sitting back and touching yourself while keeping your partner at bay. Just play. You may even want to watch some british mature films and take on some role play.  Some things will work and plenty will be just laughable, but the journey will be great!

3/ Lean to Tango

Not literally, but a tango requires two willing and eager participants to be beautiful. Great sex is a mutual give and take and there is no room for needy or pushy in the bedroom. Have mutual respect and let the music you create take you places you didn’t expect.

4/ Practice Kissing

Kiss for hours. Give yourselves time to explore, tease and connect. Too often when we are familiar with our lover we reach for the pants. Try slowing things down and kissing for foreplay. Maybe even take the sex off the table and try kissing to the point of wanting to break this new rule.Try playing with your kissing style, vary the pressure, even add a playful bite. Kissing is so intimate and stimulating, just enjoy it.

5/ Talk

We bang on about this point, but communication is the best friend you have for a great sex life. Talk while, before, and after sex even if it’s uncomfortable remember to talk. We understand it can be painfully difficult to open up, so be willing to be the first one to open up and help your partner feel comfortable. And if your partner is saying something awkwardly, listen to them and give them respect.

If you have tips you would like to share, leave them in the comments for others to read.

Happy loving peeps.

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Sex Toy Safety | 7 Easy Ways To Protect Yourself

Sex Toy Safety

A number of us have a background  in highly regulated and safety orientated industries. So when we were researching the risks within the sex industry for our social enterprise ‘Vavven’…

Well we were nothing short of horrified with what we found!


We’d expected items purchased for your favourite orifices would be safe for their intended purpose. We expected manufacturing standards and regulations would ensure consumer safety just as they do in so many other industries. But sadly this is not the case.

This blog contains the simple knowledge to prevent your parent, or child, or friend experiencing a world of embarrassment and pain.

Sex Industry Regulation

Lack of regulation for this industry means manufacturers of sex toys are relatively free to manufacture their products as they wish, in any form and almost any material they desire, even though they understanding you’re going to place these items in your most sensitive and porous areas.

The sex industry has also failed in this area. Retailers have every opportunity to provide you with the simple knowledge needed to protect yourself, but many of them either pay no attention at all, or they give toxic material and cleaning knowledge only.

People of all ages and all walks of life end up in hospital from serious mishaps while trying to gain sexual pleasure using either sex toys or common household products.

Sex Toy Safety 7 Easy Tips

Whether they are being used by couples in relationships or by
individuals whilst they watch videos on sites like A Tube XXX, sex toys can be
fantastic. But what we found is that they aren’t always as fantastic as
we think. We will share more information over time, but a great way to help with your safety is to follow these 7 easy tips:

1/ Don’t Place Anything In Your Anus That Doesn’t Have A Flared Base

We cannot stress this point enough!

Of the sex toy related injuries presenting at hospital, it is estimated over 80% are to remove items lost in the anus.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]

Your anus does not self-lubricate, it has two sphincters (one external and one internal), and it also has very strong muscles.

After the second anal sphincter there’s a kink in the bowel, and if your probe turns this corner (which it can do during anal suck or being pushed to far) it can begin to migrate north.

And no it’s unlikely it will come out. There have been plenty of instances where both males and females have experienced this, hell, there’s probably even video evidence if you were to look a porn sites like youngsexer.com or likewise websites online.

In very basic terms, the bowel muscle normally contracts behind your bodily waste to remove it, but it can also push items the other way back into the body.

Anal suck is the contraction of those very big muscles during an orgasm.

Put slippery fingers from lubricant in the mix and it will make gripping your probe very difficult.

A flared base will not prevent this mishap (if you’re stupid enough to push it too far), but it does provide a proximity reminder and a gripping point for either you or the super lucky emergency doctor on the extraction mission.

Considering a mishap can still happen

  1. Reduce the likelihood by always controlling your own anal toy during joint play &
  2. Think about your product before play, that is, stay away from products with sharp edges that could cut the delicate internal body tissue, such as jewel studded butt plug, or plugs with sharp points or raised seams. Keep in mind the amazing medical people can not x-ray your lost item unless it is metal.

If you lose anything up your anal cavity forget your dignity and hightail it to emergency, because that sucker ain’t coming back out and can do extremely serious damage!!!

2/ Talk With Professionals

Before deciding to experiment with sex toys chat with your doctor.

Yes potentially embarrassing but you’ll get over it, there’s nothing your GP hasn’t seen or heard before. They’re a wealth of information (yep all that study is for a reason), they can make sure you’re in good health and that you’re not treating a symptom of a much larger problem.

The other important professional in your sex life is a great Sex Educator.

They can assist with pleasure as a complete package, mind and body. We recommend Cyndi Darnell as an educator, she was one of the experts we selected to participate in Vavven’s product risk assessment panel and she runs sessions via Skype so geography isn’t an issue.

Sex toy retailers are experts in retailing not sexual advice.

Yes many can educate you on sex, but your own doctor combined with an expert sex educator will help you really uncover what your issues are and provide you with a much healthier sexual outcome.

3/ Purchase Body Friendly Materials

Body safe materials are very important, not only are your pleasure zones often porous they are also sensitive.

This means a sex toy and lubricants made from a toxic materials can by absorbed into your body easily and irritate or burn your skin.

Finding non-toxic materials isn’t easy due the lack of regulations, but as a guide look for reputable manufacturers and only purchase products which are bodysafe, food grade, or medical grade: silicone; glass; metal; wood; ABS plastic; or ceramic.

Stay away from porous materials, materials that either absorb fluid or trap it on its surface. Porous materials not only capture micro yucks they’re really hard to clean, meaning the micro yucks can cause infection or worse.

Sex toy bloggers such as Princess Previews or Miss Ruby Reviews are a great place to investigate toys, as they both give honest sex toy reviews and only deal in non porous sex toys made with non-toxic materials.

4/ Use The Sex Toy Safely

Each sex toy is designed for a different use and can be dangerous if misused.

For example lubricate is designed to assist with reducing friction during sexual pleasure, but if used in the shower or the bath could cause a bone breaking slippery floor.

Vibrators & Dildos

A vibrator has an oscillating motor with an offset weight which causes it to vibrate. A dildo does not have a motor, it does not move under its own steam.

Vibes are great for external vibration or internal vaginal play, but both vibrators and dildos can be quite dangerous if used for anal play if they do not have a flared base (see #1).

It’s also important that you mix up your clitoral simulation methods from time to time, change the vibration frequency and speed as well as trying stimulation other than vibration. Play with temperature, air or water flow. Using a water proof vibrator in the bath can help with this by holding it close to the zone, but not touching.

Penis Rings

Penis rings are a little tricky, see penis ring safety, but the main thing to watch out for is ensuring you purchase a material that you can easily cut from your penis if needed, and you check in with your doctor pre-use. If you are thinking about making your own penis plugs or rings do not try this at home because you could cause yourself some serious injury.

Butt Plugs

See anal play safety, but the main things to watch out for are #1 the flared base rule and #2 medical check.

Sounding Equipment

This is a long probe which is inserted into the eye of the penis.

We do not stock this item, but we’d like to stress

  1. see your doctor first there are many things which can go wrong with this practice &
  2. be aware of the material being used, that is, the common household pencil is NOT a good idea. It may leave internal splinters which can only be removed in hospital if at all.

Pre-use Check

No matter what type of toy you are using always inspect it prior to use.

  • run your hands over it thoroughly for sharp edges (the skin on your junk is very soft and easy to tear)
  • visually check for pinch points and surface cracks
  • visually inspect the batteries and housing for corrosion or any change; or check the charging cable and charging point for damage or exposed wiring
  • if you find any of these things, it’s time to bin your toy.

Vavven Safety Information

With each of our sex toys we send you detailed do’s and do not’s.

5/ Clean Your Fun Toys

Always clean your sex toys before and after use, and as a general rule clean between each new cavity.

Check out How To Clean Sex Toys.

6/ Buy From A Reputable Retailer

Buy from a reputable retailer, an organisation who knows how to impose their own regulations to improve your safety.

There are a few great retailers out there when it comes to checking items for toxic materials such as Smitten Kitten, but the pickings are very slim if you’re also looking for electrical and functional safety.
In Australia, sex toys are adequately covered for electrical safety under Australian regulations, but good luck finding an Australian importer let alone a retailer who understands the legal responsibility here.

7/ Don’t Get Suckered By Internet Bollocks

  • Price will not determine your toy safety. We’ve have found safe and unsafe toys in all price ranges.
  • Materials ain’t materials. It would be the easy road to take a blanket assumption all toys made from a certain material are either toxic or non toxic, but the fact is materials are tricky and much rests on additives and manufacturing methods which you may not be aware of.
  • Smell isn’t a good indicator of toxicity many toxins are odourless.
  • The home flame test to prove if a sex toy is manufactured from “real silicone”. This is one of the most amusing things we’ve read so far in this industry. It‘s a great indicator of the lack of material and chemical property understanding of those involved, but a very poor indicator of the material. Silicone will melt at plus 300C and the hottest part of a pocket lighter can reach nearly 2,000C, even a slight wobble with flame placement will subject the silicone to temperatures far above its limits.

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When’s my partner ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven sexual experimentation

Whether you want to explore a fantasy or introduce sex toys, sexual experimentation in relationships is normal and healthy. You may decide you want to be his little princess and have him treat you like royalty, but he may not feel comfortable with this idea. In which case, you can come to a mutual agreement on where you want your sexual relationship to stray. Having fantasies doesn’t always mean mean all your desires will align to that of your partners, it’s always best to check in with your partner(s) before throwing down something a little out of your ordinary sexual ritual like this.

Our tips to checking in with your partner exploring likes and dislikes are:

#1 Talk

The best way to determine whether your partner is also ready to experiment is to sit down and have an honest discussion with them. Try doing this at neutral time. The heat of the moment can tend to complicate things, try sitting down during a calm moment together.

Have a talk about what some of your limits may be, both as partners and as individuals. Talk about how you might communicate when either of you feel like things have gone too far or you are uncomfortable.

Ensure that you both feel safe to say no at any time to each other.

#2 Consent

When your sexual activity involves others, it is vital you and all participants are consenting adults who are emotionally ready. Don’t follow a crowd, set your own limits. If it feels wrong for you or if you change your mind, speak up and say no. Your body, your rules. If you don’t want be a part of something, you are perfectly within your rights to remove yourself.

Consenting means person(s) of full mental faculties, engaging in the full act of their own free will, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion. See our consent blog for more info on this Consent Click Here.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

#2 Enjoy The Ride

But most of all- enjoy exploring your sexuality alone or with a partner. Be playful and curious, unashamed and adventurous. Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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When am I ready for sexual experimentation?

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Vavven™ | Love yourself Sexual Experimentation

Only you will ever know the answer to this question. The best advice we can give you is to ensure you love yourself before you decide to love and pleasure others. If you are unable to sit with your special other(s) and have honest discussions on what makes you feel both uncomfortable and aroused, a discussion around sexual experimentation, then perhaps you’re not ready.

If you are exploring on your own, listen to your own instincts. If something makes you feel uncomfortable, then perhaps this is not the right time.

Remember to enjoy yourself. Be playful and curious, enjoy exploring your sexuality, and don’t rush the adventure. It’s like they say, it’s all about the journey.

Be safe, and let the good times roll.

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What does consent really mean?

Vavven Consent

We think the British Police have nailed the topic of sexual consent, so rather than listen to us, take 3 mins to watch (and share) this clip, or keep reading.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics – Personal Safety Survey 2012, 19.4% of women and 4.5% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15. It’s important you understand sexual consent, what it means and what it looks like.

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

  • Consent can only be gained from a person of full mental faculties, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion i.e. involved by their own freewill.
  • Consent at the beginning of an act does not mean someone cannot change their mind or lose control. If this happens you no longer have consent and you should stop and ensure the person is safe.
  • Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged. Look for signs of enthusiastic consent such as verbal invitation, pulling you closer to them, asking for things, telling you what feels good.
  • Again, someone who may have enthusiastically consented at the start of play can also change their mind mid-act.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

How Do I Ask For Consent?

Communication, communication, communication! Before, during and after. Create a safe and loving space. Even if you are ships passing in the night you can still be loving, respectful and care for the person you are with at the time.

Before

Just ask!

  • “I just want to make sure we are both into the same thing, would you like to … ? I’m also cool not doing anything”
  • “What would you like to do?”

This is also a great time to let your partner know your own limits.

During

Pillow talk is very sexy, use it to check on your partners willingness to remain involved.

  • “What feels good for you?”
  • “Do you like it when I …?”
  • “Tell me what you would like”
  • “Are you OK?”

After

  • “Thank you”
  • “What would make it better for you?”
  • “Are you OK?”

Laughing – Project Consent

If My Partner Said OK, Are There Cues They Didn’t Mean It?

Yes! You can be sure your partner is not feeling right about sex if they are doing any of the following

  • Not responding to your touch
  • Pushing you away
  • Holding their arms tightly around their own body
  • Turning away from you or hiding their face
  • Stiffening muscles

These are all good reasons to stop.

What If I Started It All And Now I’m Not Sure?

That is OK, you may have thought you were ready and you’re not, or you may not like something that is happening. Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged.

If you do not want what is happening, respect yourself and say so.

This could be “please stop, I’ve changed my mind” or “I need to go to the toilet” or “Can we talk?”

Take the time to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling, give them the same respect you would want in the situation.

I’ve Been Led On

If you believe you are entitled to an act because you feel you were led on, or you are frustrated, or any other reason, well this behaviour is rapey and so not cool.

The best way to help yourself in this situation is ensure the other person is safe, find yourself a private place, and beat off! We’ve got lots of products to help with that part!

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3 Signs You’re A Sexually Empowered Being

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Becoming a sexually empowered being isn’t always a smooth ride…in fact for many of us it can be painful and challenging and it takes a brave person to move through the journey with confidence and courage.

Feeling sexually empowered is a unique experience and feeling for each individual…for some it may be about power and strength, for others it may be about vulnerability and love.

So, what are the signs of a sexually empowered being?

Sign #1 You are confident within yourself

Confident people are sexy.

Those who are confident with who they are and what they love are a pleasure to be around.

Those who are confident in all areas of their life are more often than not, confident when enjoying sex.

Feeling confident is an essential ingredient to feeling empowered sexually.

Lovers who are confident are a pleasure to f*ck.

Sign #2 You are open to self-development

Self-development is a key ingredient to feeling empowered.

Those who have the courage and wisdom to search within and deal with their shadows are brave.

Brave people face what it is that’s holding them back from being the best version of themselves and move through life feeling lighter, brighter and energised.

Don’t be afraid to face the scary stuff that moves within you and heal old wounds that hold you back from opening wide to sex and intimacy.

Sign #3 You accept and adore your body

Sexually empowered beings look after their body and learn to love and adore it just the way it is.

Our body is what contains our soul…sexually empowered beings respect and love their skin, their genitals and their minds. Sexually empowered beings worship their body as they would worship a lover.

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