Pelvic Floor & Kids – Learn the 3 Things You Need to Know

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Pelvic Floor & Kids Sexual Health | Vavven™

Why’s Pelvic Floor Health Important?

If you’re a dad, mum, carer… then you need to have the ‘Pelvic Health’ conversations (note the plural) with your kids.

Early healthy conversations teach good lifelong habits and remove the shame associated with the pelvic region. This shame is created by us not talking openly in society about sexual health, of which pelvic health is a large component.

If you’re thinking these conversations may be too awkward to bring up with your kids, then you need to challenge yourself. Would you neglect teaching your kids to brush their teeth or to practice sun safety? I’m guessing the answer was no, so why should this area be any different. It’s not actually, pelvic health is simply no less important to your child’s lifelong health, wellbeing and happiness.

The aim of the pelvic health conversation is awareness

Awareness of what the pelvic floor does, when it’s working, and what their normal looks like. To know their own body means they will know change.

But before you have this conversation with your child, have it with your doctor. They will have insight into your child as an individual and give you age appropriate information on pelvic floor exercise, such as, what age to start, frequency and duration. Your doctor may even recommend not doing them as they may actually be too tight to start with. Some signs of this are pelvic pain, constipation, and difficulty starting urination.

What does the Pelvic Floor do?

Pelvic health is required to: control our bladder and bowel; support our internal organs; stabilise and support our spine; provide healthy erectile function and ejaculation; support our uterus during and after child birth to help prevent the uterus descending into the vagina; and enhance all genders sexual pleasure.

It is estimated up to 13% of men and 37% of women suffer urinary incontinence; 20% of men and 12.9% of women suffer faecal incontinence; half of us post child birth have pelvic organ prolapse, many occurring close to child birth but are more likely to occur near menopause, and one-fifth of which require medical attention; and we haven’t even touched the sexual wellbeing numbers.

The pelvic floor is the muscle set that holds all of your insides in, and provides functional control of our bladder, bowel, and uterus. It’s a very complex little set up with muscles darting all over the place and a few openings for the urethra, uterus and anus to pass through. The pelvic floor muscles wrap firmly around these openings to help keep the passages shut. It’s also of interest to know that the urethra and the anus each have a second sphincter to help with this function.

Pelvic Floor

The pelvic floor muscles can weaken for a number of reasons: surgery; constipation; heavy lifting; bladder and bowel problems; pregnancy; age; high impact exercise; and obesity, to name a few. And just as impacting but a much rarer occurrence is pelvic floor muscles that are too tight. The failing of the muscles to relax can prevent the bowel and bladder fully emptying, as well as causing difficulty with penetrative intercourse.

If you have an issue with your pelvic floor chat with your doctor, don’t self-diagnose, they did that university degree for a reason. If you’re in Australia follow this link to find your closest pelvic floor physiotherapist.

The best advice available for maintaining pelvic health is to:

  1. Exercise the pelvic muscles regularly from an early age (this may be as simple as walking see below);
  2. Have good health habits to try and prevent constipation, but also good toilet habits  to manage it when it occurs; and
  3. Discuss your pelvic health with a medical professional.

For our kids to be able to follow these three steps, then we need to talk with them about pelvic health just as we would about healthy eating. These conversations will teach them the basics at an early age and set them up for shame free pelvic health. Pelvic health is a practice to start young to create a healthy habit and reduce the likelihood of suffering sexual or functional issues.

But How Do You Teach Your Kids Pelvic Floor Exercises?

First of all remember the aim is body awareness, knowing where the pelvic floor is, how to operate it, and what their body normal is. Understanding their own body means they will notice changes with age.

With regard to kids resources, there isn’t that much out there unfortunately and what is out there is very gendered. This book may be helpful if your conversation is with someone who just lovvvvess pink and frills, but don’t let a lack of targeted resource slow you down.

We didn’t need a book or a video to show our kids how to brush their teeth, we just taught them from our own experience. So there is no reason why we can not teach them what and where their pelvic floor is, how to activate it, and how to relax it, after we’ve taught ourselves and sort medical guidance on recommended start age and frequency.

These two videos teach the same information in a simplistic way, but approach the lesson with different styles, so just see through the gendering, aging, and the prostate cancer references.

Two very important areas which are not discussed in the videos are:

  1. Normal daily activity: Standing and walking with good posture will work the pelvic floor. So an active healthy kid doesn’t need to go crazy with doing these exercises, they just need to be aware of their body and how it works, what can affect it, and to notice change and seek help if needed.
  2. Relaxing: After you tighten a muscle, let it go completely, let it relax. Learning deep breathing to relax the diaphragm will also relax the pelvic floor, as they are part of the same system. Deep breathing will also calm the nervous system and that’s a nice state in our modern active lives.  

So go to town. This a great skill for all you adults as well!

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A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

A couple of tips to help when chatting to your kids (after chatting with your family doctor)

  • Find something to relate the conversation to e.g. an aging pet with toileting difficulties
  • When describing the muscles describe them as something kids can visualise e.g. a trampoline or a hammock
  • Only locate one set of muscles at a time i.e. the ones to stop wee, then the ones to stop poo etc.
  • Link the exercising to a visual cue which relates to the frequency of exercise e.g.fish feeding or hockey practice. Over time they’ll associate the visual cue with the exercise
  • And keep it light, don’t go over the top, the aim is awareness

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Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

Magical Period Sex … How To Make It Amazing Every Day Of The Month

I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding period sex that I‘m ready to bust.

Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing people’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation.

Seriously, it’s time to open up to the possibility that there’s SO much more to period sex than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. Time to get over your period phobia.

So, if this sounds like you, and you’re one of those who feels a little ‘icked’ out at the thought of it (or you have a lover who is), here’s a few reasons as to why it’s time to change your tone and embrace magical period sex once and for all.

Embrace the fact that periods are a very normal, natural and beautiful part of life

Menstruation is a right of passage … it’s a beautiful sacred time of each month.

Bleeding on a monthly basis means that our bodies are healthy and cleansing … bleeding is so normal, natural and pure.

If you’re ready to honour love in their entirety, you must honour every little piece of them, even if that includes blood.

Think of period sex as an opportunity to think outside the box sexually.

The options are endless when it comes to fu*cking your lover when they bleeding.

If you’re not ready for traditional penetrative sex, here’s some alternatives to consider:

  • Kissing for hours on end. Yes, JUST kissing can lead to orgasm and deep pleasure.
  • Energetically fucking with tantric breathing and eye gazing … welcome to the world of energetic orgasm … mind blowing
  • Cunnilingus (get over your fear and go down below with a tampon in … because the tampon contains all the blood the pussy will be super clean and it’s a extremely intimate form of oral sex)
  • A bit of fellatio (no explanation necessary, right? Worship your both cock and pussy)
  • Anal play (leading into anal sex if you’re both keen to go there … because let’s face it, anal sex is the perfect alternative if that’s your thing)
  • Mutual masturbation – both self pleasuring next to each other, or watching each other from across the room (this is a personal favourite)

Get dirty and just get to it, you have nothing to lose

If you’re ready to dive in deep and embrace traditional penetrative period sex in it’s entirety, here’s a few simple ways you can make it an enjoyable experience:

  • Jump in the shower. F*ck in the shower and the water will naturally wash away the blood.
  • Use towels – place a couple of towels on the bed (or wherever you choose to have sex) and minimise post-sex clean up
  • Embrace the blood. Yep, that’s right, the reality is you are going to SEE blood, embrace it, it’s ok and it’s natural.

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Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Vavven Penis Ring Safety (Cock Ring Safety)

Cock ring safety is rarely spoken about, let alone relayed by manufacturers or retailers. So we’re here to chat penis ring safety!

The Penis

The penis is a complex bit of gear, but basically it’s a pump system. Your heart and arteries are the pump, pushing blood into and around the penis. An erection is created when a rather tricky biochemical process shuts valve like items in the penis, enabling more blood to enter than leave and in turn building pressure.

The pressure from a penis ring creates an artificial one way valve, reducing or preventing blood flowing out of the penis. But this artificial blood restriction can cause damage, the tissue of the penis and testicles need fresh blood flow to stay alive. See recommended use time limits below.

Holding an erection is not the only reason a penis ring is used. The reasons vary from erection assistance to feeling good, or just an attempt to make your junk look a little larger. Whatever the reason education is very important. Penis rings have been in use for a very long time and for short term use are normally quite OK. A 2009 sex toy safety paper found penis rings accounted for just 1.9% of the sex toy related emergency treatment.

The main issues with penis rings are related to:

If you ever find yourself in a situation where your penis ring is stuck, hightail it to emergency to seek medical help immediately. That is one friend you want to look after.

Here are a few tips to help you out:

#1 Seek Medical Advice Pre-use

Penis rings must NOT be used without medical advice by those who have cardiovascular problems or who take blood-thinning medication.

Always check in with your doctor and ask for their advice on safe use and any medical conditions you may have which could cause an issue. If you’re using a penis ring to assist with erections be sure to discuss this with your doctor, they may actually be able to help you in many other ways. And if you’re just experimenting to spice up your play, just be open with your doctor they have knowledge to share.

#2 Duration Of Use

Medical professionals advise against using a penis ring for more than 30 minutes.

Ensure

  • you are not using drugs which affect your attention or awareness;
  • you remove the penis ring prior to sleeping; and
  • you remove the penis ring immediately if you notice any pain, numbness, or if the flesh goes pale or blue.

We recommend

  • NOT using a penis ring with numbing creams, as this will reduce your awareness of your penis while wearing the penis ring; and
  • avoiding metal penis rings, as removal can be very difficult in an emergency situation. Look for a penis ring which can be cut or easily undone.

#3 Weight Damage

We recommend avoiding heavy weighted penis rings as the pulling can damage the structure at the base of the penis, which can lead to nerve damage and irritation of groin hernias.

#4 Be Prepared

Knowing who you can contact in an emergency or having something close by to cut the penis ring if needed, is so much easier to think about when all the blood is in the thinking head!

Note: If you do attempt to cut your own penis ring, ensure your penis is protected.

#5 Have Fun

We know all those rules probably scared the shit out of you, but education will keep you safe in bed. Don’t stress about the rules, just follow them and enjoy.

This youtube clip by Dr Ruthie will take 10 minutes of your life, but well worth it. She covers materials, sizing, installation and safety.

How to Wear a Cock Ring | Dr. Ruthie’s Sex Info

Happy loving peeps.

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Gender Neutral Sex Toys

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Gender Neutral Sex Toys

Why Gender Neutral Sex Toys Are Important To Care About?

Here at Vavven we think of pleasure in terms of psychology, health and wellbeing. We believe being a well-versed, conscious human puts you in control to be aware and shameless when it comes to your own unique sexuality.

We disagree with gendering sex toys for the following two reasons –

Person Identification

We believe it is important to be inclusive and gender neutral sex toys helps us honour this value. For example, not all penis owners would identify as being a man. We categorise our products by the erogenous zones they stimulate. We have even changed the name of some of the products we sell to ensure they are approachable to all.

&

Individual Exploration

We are not here to prescribe your sexuality, we believe it’s important you explore your own sexuality free from social constraints. Sex toys should be introduced for your pleasure, to enhance your feelings, find new ones, and improve your communication. We only have two rules

  1. Ensure all involved are consenting adults &
  2. Don’t ever place anything in your anus that doesn’t have a good sized flared base. Butt Sex Safety.

Our language impacts the way we think. It can enable and disable us. Small tweaks to our language usage can go a long way to respect all.

Read More About Our Values

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Let’s Talk Butt Sex, Anal Sex is so Lowbrow

Vavven Anal Sex Butt Sex

Not all sphincters are created equal!

Anal sex is so last season, we prefer the more highbrow butt sex! Let’s get into it.

So you’re interested in exploring another of your erogenous zones, good for you!

The back door has a few extra special rules you must follow. So read to the very bottom of this blog and practice these basic steps: consent, health, communicate, lubricate, and a big dose of patience.

#1 Consent

#2 Health

  • Never, ever, ever, put anything inside your butt you cannot hold onto! We recommend always having a good sized flared base on the object to reduce the risk of it being sucked into the anus (Anal Suck). Your butt muscles are super strong, especially during orgasm, and lubricated fingers are super slippery.

If you do lose any object into your butt (or anyone else’s!) seek medical help immediately, that sucker is more than likely not coming back out on it’s own and can do serious damage.

  • If you are exploring with fingers ensure the fingernails are short and smooth, the anus is delicate.
  • If you have hemorrhoids do not engage in anal sex until you have discussed the risks with your doctor.
  • We strongly recommend not using any item designed to numb the anal area (cream, drug, lubricant etc.). Numbing the butt effectively dulls nerves and masks pain, without this pain sensation you and/or your partner(s) will not be aware of tearing and other harms being caused to the anus in question.
  • Anal sex shouldn’t be painful. If pain occurs, stop immediately. Do not continue if you have a tear or damage to the anus and seek medical advice.
  • Match your lubrication to your protection. Only water-based lubricants with latex condoms, never use petroleum or oil based lubricants (e.g. Vaseline, massage oil) as a chemical reaction occurs and weakens the strength of the condom which could cause it to break.
  • Wear protection, the penetration of any orifice; anal; vaginal; and oral, comes with a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI’s). So, we strongly recommend using condoms during anal sex (well all sex actually!).

Warning if you have a latex allergy we do stock a number of latex free products. Vavven’s Latex Free Barrier Protection.

  • Never change from anal penetration to vaginal penetration without changing condom or washing the penetrating object totally.
  • If you’re using fingers ensure you wash your hands very well prior and after anal play.
  • If you choose to douche (cleaning faecal matter from the anal area) be mindful of how much you do this, as over douching can have health implications. Douching is a personal preference, but we do not sell douching kits because we all know, milk, milk, lemonade, around the corner…
  • And with this in mind the area has a unique fragrance which will over time impregnate your intimacy toys, so we recommend always using them with a condom to reduce the lingering aroma.

#3 Communicate

Communication is exceptionally important in all stages of anal sex.

  • Prior to butt sex, talk to your partner to ensure you’re both signed up for the same activity.
  • During anal sex, ensure the person being penetrated is the one in control. Consider your position to ensure this control. Talk to each other about the force, speed, and depth of penetration.

 

#4 Lubricate

Your butt is not self-lubricating and actually absorbs moisture, so make sure you lubricate well and reapply regularly. Dry penetration can cause lesions in the fine skin tissue, if a lesion or tear occurs in the anal area seek medical advice immediately.

 

#5 Patience

It’s the journey, not the destination that matters!

  • Take your time, allow the person being penetrated to lead the charge.
  • Focus on enjoying each stage, not having a finish line.
  • This can time (sometimes many months) to work your way to the size of a penis or dildo being inserted into your anus
  • Starting with a well lubricated finger is a great way to explore the sensation and get the anus comfortable with something small. If you’re using intimate toys (see warning above), start small and work your way up when and if you desire.

Lacy Greens Butt Sex – Can not see? Change your youtube settings to 18+. Trust us, all will be fine.

Best of luck with your butt.

“Anal sex is like brussel sprouts, an acquired taste” Cyndi Darnell

How To Clean Sex Toys

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Vavven How To Clean Sex Toys

Why Do I Need To Clean My Sex Toys?

Knowing how to clean sex toys is a very important skill to help ensure your fun doesn’t become nasty.

Believe us, it can become nasty pretty quick when you’re popping your sex toy(s) in orifices where they will come in contact with bodily fluids like, semen, vaginal fluid, anal fluid, and potentially blood.

Depending on your choice of toy, these fluids may either impregnate the surface (porous toys) of your sex toy, or linger on the surfaces of them.

If these fluids are not thoroughly removed they can transfer things such as:

  • sexually transmitted infections (STI’s)
  • and micro yucks which have grown on the surface

Either way the end result is not nice, from STI’s to yeast infections, so treat sex toy hygiene with R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

To keep you and your partner(s) safe it’s recommend you always clean your sex toys: thoroughly before and after each use; when changing from the anus to the vagina; and when changing from one partner to another. To assist with fluid transfer condoms can be used to cover the toys, remember to change the condom if changing orifices as above. And a handy hint – condoms over your toys also helps with the fragrance a toy acquires from anal use.

Always follow the manufacturer’s recommended cleaning method, if you can not find them, here are a couple to help you out –

The 3 Best Ways To Clean Sex Toys

1/ Cleaning Sex Toys With Soap & Hot Water

A good scrub with soap and hot water is usually sufficient for most sex toys. Rinse thoroughly to avoid leaving any soap on the toy. Keep in mind we do not recommend owning a porous toy as they are near impossible to clean adequately.

This cleaning method is good for: ABS, Silicone, Metal, Glass, and Ceramic

If your toy is not waterproof – remove batteries; do not allow water to enter the battery housing; do not submerge your toy; and use a damp cloth for cleaning rather than direct water.

2/ Using Sex Toy Cleaner

For that extra peace of mind use specially formulated sex toy cleaners which often also disinfectant. This is a good option for most sex toys, but check the manufacturer’s labeling to ensure the cleaner is safe for use on your sex toy.

This cleaning method is good for: Most Sex Toys

3/ Cleaning Leather Sex Toys

A little fetish play can be fun but the clean up is often rather difficult due to the porous nature of leather.

Saddle soap and warm water is recommended for leather items, however we have not found any conclusive information to its ability to remove bodily fluids which may carry STI’s.

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Sex Toy Safety | 7 Easy Ways To Protect Yourself

Sex Toy Safety

A number of us have a background  in highly regulated and safety orientated industries. So when we were researching the risks within the sex industry for our social enterprise ‘Vavven’…

Well we were nothing short of horrified with what we found!


We’d expected items purchased for your favourite orifices would be safe for their intended purpose. We expected manufacturing standards and regulations would ensure consumer safety just as they do in so many other industries. But sadly this is not the case.

This blog contains the simple knowledge to prevent your parent, or child, or friend experiencing a world of embarrassment and pain.

Sex Industry Regulation

Lack of regulation for this industry means manufacturers of sex toys are relatively free to manufacture their products as they wish, in any form and almost any material they desire, even though they understanding you’re going to place these items in your most sensitive and porous areas.

The sex industry has also failed in this area. Retailers have every opportunity to provide you with the simple knowledge needed to protect yourself, but many of them either pay no attention at all, or they give toxic material and cleaning knowledge only.

People of all ages and all walks of life end up in hospital from serious mishaps while trying to gain sexual pleasure using either sex toys or common household products.

Sex Toy Safety 7 Easy Tips

We will share more information over time, but a great way to help with your safety is to follow these 7 easy tips:

1/ Don’t Place Anything In Your Anus That Doesn’t Have A Flared Base

We cannot stress this point enough!

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Your anus does not self-lubricate, it has two sphincters (one external and one internal), and it also has very strong muscles.

After the second anal sphincter there’s a kink in the bowel, and if your probe turns this corner (which it can do during anal suck or being pushed to far) it can begin to migrate north.

And no it’s unlikely it will come out.

In very basic terms, the bowel muscle normally contracts behind your bodily waste to remove it, but it can also push items the other way back into the body.

Anal suck is the contraction of those very big muscles during an orgasm.

Put slippery fingers from lubricant in the mix and it will make gripping your probe very difficult.

A flared base will not prevent this mishap (if you’re stupid enough to push it too far), but it does provide a proximity reminder and a gripping point for either you or the super lucky emergency doctor on the extraction mission.

Considering a mishap can still happen

  1. Reduce the likelihood by always controlling your own anal toy during joint play &
  2. Think about your product before play, that is, stay away from products with sharp edges that could cut the delicate internal body tissue, such as jewel studded butt plug, or plugs with sharp points or raised seams. Keep in mind the amazing medical people can not x-ray your lost item unless it is metal.

If you lose anything up your anal cavity forget your dignity and hightail it to emergency, because that sucker ain’t coming back out and can do extremely serious damage!!!

2/ Talk With Professionals

Before deciding to experiment with sex toys chat with your doctor.

Yes potentially embarrassing but you’ll get over it, there’s nothing your GP hasn’t seen or heard before. They’re a wealth of information (yep all that study is for a reason), they can make sure you’re in good health and that you’re not treating a symptom of a much larger problem.

The other important professional in your sex life is a great Sex Educator.

They can assist with pleasure as a complete package, mind and body. We recommend Cyndi Darnell as an educator, she was one of the experts we selected to participate in Vavven’s product risk assessment panel and she runs sessions via Skype so geography isn’t an issue.

Sex toy retailers are experts in retailing not sexual advice.

Yes many can educate you on sex, but your own doctor combined with an expert sex educator will help you really uncover what your issues are and provide you with a much healthier sexual outcome.

3/ Purchase Body Friendly Materials

Body safe materials are very important, not only are your pleasure zones often porous they are also sensitive.

This means a sex toy and lubricants made from a toxic materials can by absorbed into your body easily and irritate or burn your skin.

Finding non-toxic materials isn’t easy due the lack of regulations, but as a guide look for reputable manufacturers and only purchase products which are bodysafe, food grade, or medical grade: silicone; glass; metal; wood; ABS plastic; or ceramic.

Stay away from porous materials, materials that either absorb fluid or trap it on its surface. Porous materials not only capture micro yucks they’re really hard to clean, meaning the micro yucks can cause infection or worse.

Sex toy bloggers such as Princess Previews or Miss Ruby Reviews are a great place to investigate toys, as they both give honest sex toy reviews and only deal in non porous sex toys made with non-toxic materials.

4/ Use The Sex Toy Safely

Each sex toy is designed for a different use and can be dangerous if misused.

For example lubricate is designed to assist with reducing friction during sexual pleasure, but if used in the shower or the bath could cause a bone breaking slippery floor.

Vibrators & Dildos

A vibrator has an oscillating motor with an offset weight which causes it to vibrate. A dildo does not have a motor, it does not move under its own steam.

Vibes are great for external vibration or internal vaginal play, but both vibrators and dildos can be quite dangerous if used for anal play if they do not have a flared base (see #1).

It’s also important that you mix up your clitoral simulation methods from time to time, change the vibration frequency and speed as well as trying stimulation other than vibration. Play with temperature, air or water flow. Using a water proof vibrator in the bath can help with this by holding it close to the zone, but not touching.

Penis Rings

Penis rings are a little tricky, see penis ring safety, but the main thing to watch out for is ensuring you purchase a material that you can easily cut from your penis if needed, and you check in with your doctor pre-use.

Butt Plugs

See anal play safety, but the main things to watch out for are #1 the flared base rule and #2 medical check.

Sounding Equipment

This is a long probe which is inserted into the eye of the penis.

We do not stock this item, but we’d like to stress

  1. see your doctor first there are many things which can go wrong with this practice &
  2. be aware of the material being used, that is, the common household pencil is NOT a good idea. It may leave internal splinters which can only be removed in hospital if at all.

Pre-use Check

No matter what type of toy you are using always inspect it prior to use.

  • run your hands over it thoroughly for sharp edges (the skin on your junk is very soft and easy to tear)
  • visually check for pinch points and surface cracks
  • visually inspect the batteries and housing for corrosion or any change; or check the charging cable and charging point for damage or exposed wiring
  • if you find any of these things, it’s time to bin your toy.

Vavven Safety Information

With each of our sex toys we send you detailed do’s and do not’s.

5/ Clean Your Fun Toys

Always clean your sex toys before and after use, and as a general rule clean between each new cavity.

Check out How To Clean Sex Toys.

6/ Buy From A Reputable Retailer

Buy from a reputable retailer, an organisation who knows how to impose their own regulations to improve your safety.

There are a few great retailers out there when it comes to checking items for toxic materials such as Smitten Kitten, but the pickings are very slim if you’re also looking for electrical and functional safety.
In Australia, sex toys are adequately covered for electrical safety under Australian regulations, but good luck finding an Australian importer let alone a retailer who understands the legal responsibility here.

7/ Don’t Get Suckered By Internet Bollocks

  • Price will not determine your toy safety. We’ve have found safe and unsafe toys in all price ranges.
  • Materials ain’t materials. It would be the easy road to take a blanket assumption all toys made from a certain material are either toxic or non toxic, but the fact is materials are tricky and much rests on additives and manufacturing methods which you may not be aware of.
  • Smell isn’t a good indicator of toxicity many toxins are odourless.
  • The home flame test to prove if a sex toy is manufactured from “real silicone”. This is one of the most amusing things we’ve read so far in this industry. It‘s a great indicator of the lack of material and chemical property understanding of those involved, but a very poor indicator of the material. Silicone will melt at plus 300C and the hottest part of a pocket lighter can reach nearly 2,000C, even a slight wobble with flame placement will subject the silicone to temperatures far above its limits.

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What does consent really mean?

Vavven Consent

We think the British Police have nailed the topic of sexual consent, so rather than listen to us, take 3 mins to watch (and share) this clip, or keep reading.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics – Personal Safety Survey 2012, 19.4% of women and 4.5% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15. It’s important you understand sexual consent, what it means and what it looks like.

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

  • Consent can only be gained from a person of full mental faculties, not under the influence of drugs or persuasion i.e. involved by their own freewill.
  • Consent at the beginning of an act does not mean someone cannot change their mind or lose control. If this happens you no longer have consent and you should stop and ensure the person is safe.
  • Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged. Look for signs of enthusiastic consent such as verbal invitation, pulling you closer to them, asking for things, telling you what feels good.
  • Again, someone who may have enthusiastically consented at the start of play can also change their mind mid-act.

If you are unsure about consent, stop.

How Do I Ask For Consent?

Communication, communication, communication! Before, during and after. Create a safe and loving space. Even if you are ships passing in the night you can still be loving, respectful and care for the person you are with at the time.

Before

Just ask!

  • “I just want to make sure we are both into the same thing, would you like to … ? I’m also cool not doing anything”
  • “What would you like to do?”

This is also a great time to let your partner know your own limits.

During

Pillow talk is very sexy, use it to check on your partners willingness to remain involved.

  • “What feels good for you?”
  • “Do you like it when I …?”
  • “Tell me what you would like”
  • “Are you OK?”

After

  • “Thank you”
  • “What would make it better for you?”
  • “Are you OK?”

Laughing – Project Consent

If My Partner Said OK, Are There Cues They Didn’t Mean It?

Yes! You can be sure your partner is not feeling right about sex if they are doing any of the following

  • Not responding to your touch
  • Pushing you away
  • Holding their arms tightly around their own body
  • Turning away from you or hiding their face
  • Stiffening muscles

These are all good reasons to stop.

What If I Started It All And Now I’m Not Sure?

That is OK, you may have thought you were ready and you’re not, or you may not like something that is happening. Sex can only be great when everybody involved is enthusiastically engaged.

If you do not want what is happening, respect yourself and say so.

This could be “please stop, I’ve changed my mind” or “I need to go to the toilet” or “Can we talk?”

Take the time to talk to your partner and explain how you are feeling, give them the same respect you would want in the situation.

I’ve Been Led On

If you believe you are entitled to an act because you feel you were led on, or you are frustrated, or any other reason, well this behaviour is rapey and so not cool.

The best way to help yourself in this situation is ensure the other person is safe, find yourself a private place, and beat off! We’ve got lots of products to help with that part!

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3 Signs You’re A Sexually Empowered Being

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Becoming a sexually empowered being isn’t always a smooth ride…in fact for many of us it can be painful and challenging and it takes a brave person to move through the journey with confidence and courage.

Feeling sexually empowered is a unique experience and feeling for each individual…for some it may be about power and strength, for others it may be about vulnerability and love.

So, what are the signs of a sexually empowered being?

Sign #1 You are confident within yourself

Confident people are sexy.

Those who are confident with who they are and what they love are a pleasure to be around.

Those who are confident in all areas of their life are more often than not, confident when enjoying sex.

Feeling confident is an essential ingredient to feeling empowered sexually.

Lovers who are confident are a pleasure to f*ck.

Sign #2 You are open to self-development

Self-development is a key ingredient to feeling empowered.

Those who have the courage and wisdom to search within and deal with their shadows are brave.

Brave people face what it is that’s holding them back from being the best version of themselves and move through life feeling lighter, brighter and energised.

Don’t be afraid to face the scary stuff that moves within you and heal old wounds that hold you back from opening wide to sex and intimacy.

Sign #3 You accept and adore your body

Sexually empowered beings look after their body and learn to love and adore it just the way it is.

Our body is what contains our soul…sexually empowered beings respect and love their skin, their genitals and their minds. Sexually empowered beings worship their body as they would worship a lover.

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How To Create Space For Fresh Sexual Energy by Juliet Allen

Sex Sex Toy Safety Education

Our body is a temple for sexual energy and so is the home that we live in. With this in mind, it’s important that we create space within our house so that sexual energy can flow freely.

Have you ever walked into someone’s home and felt a yucky energy?

Most of us have experienced this at some stage and let’s face it, that kind of energy isn’t associated with amazing sexual pleasure.

Imagine if there’s dirty energy in our home and we bring a new lover into the space … this can definitely impact negatively on the intimacy and sex with that lover.

So what are the key elements of a clear, energetic, sexy space? And how do we create that? Here are three practical ways you can create space for sex in your house today:

Tip #1 Sage your home

Sage is used to burn away bad energy and spirits and clear the way for new energy to be birthed.

Purchase a sage stick at your local health food store and light it using a candle.

While the sage is burning walk around your home with the stick and allow the smoke to gently cleanse the energy in each room.

Tip #2 Sleep in beautiful sheets

We spend hours and hours in bed … so we may as well sleep in great quality bed sheets.

Visit your local homeware store and buy the best quality sheets you can buy … don’t be afraid to spend money on such luxury!

Great quality sheets encourage great quality sex.

Tip #3 Clear clutter and throw out stuff you don’t use

Cluttered house = cluttered head.

Spring clean your home today and throw out stuff that you don’t use.

Clear the energy in your home by clearing out items of clothing, kitchen utensils, bed linen, books etc that no longer serve you.

Cleaning clutter allows for new energy to flow into your home and creates space for new sexual energy to arrive.

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